Last week, we explored the wild and wonderful world of building a relationship with your Higher Power.
This week, we’re taking it to the streets!
More specifically, we’re taking this Higher Power gig and applying it to our interactions with other people.
The trickiest part of this proposition is that other people are messy.
Just like us.
Putting two messes together can be crazy good, at times.
But it can also be challenging.
That’s where this post comes in.
There are three ways in which building a relationship with your Higher Power can make human relationships better.
Let’s break it down, shall we?
Once you’re hip to the Higher Power concept, codependency gets kicked out the door.
Okay, sometimes it sneaks back in, but you can immediately boot it out again.
Because when you build a relationship with your Higher Power, you realize that everyone has their own relationship with their Higher Power.
You also realize that you can’t be their Higher Power.
Bending over backwards to try to “fix” someone else no longer makes sense.
Attempting to rescue or fix someone is built on a shaky foundation, one that says the other person is fragile, weak, and incapable of finding their own truth.
Yes, it can be difficult watching those we care about floundering around, searching for this truth.
In those times, I like to picture them surrounded with the light of the Divine. The light of their own truth.
It’s a form of giving that strengthens their relationship with the Divine, instead of weakens it.
Which, ultimately, is the essence of true giving.
This isn’t to say there aren’t times when we can give in other ways as well.
Indeed, giving to someone else, especially when some asks for help, can be totally in alignment with our Higher Power and theirs.
How do we know the difference between rescuing and aligned giving?
Yup, that’s right.
A strong relationship with your Higher Power helps you to know the difference.
Receiving also gets clearer and more fun when we build a relationship with a Higher Power.
For one thing, given that Source is in everyone and everything, It can talk to you through other people.
The woman in front of you at the grocery store who says exactly what you need to hear.
The movie you watch that inspires you to move forward on your path.
The encouraging email from a friend that reminds you the truth of your soul.
Conversely, sometimes other people offer something that more closely resembles dog poop on the bottom of a shoe.
In times like this, you can remember that when someone is not aligned with their Higher Power, all kinds of junk can get activated.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is the more you become aligned with your Higher Power, the more easily you can discern the good stuff from the poop.
In fact, it becomes easy.
More and more, receiving is about welcoming the clarity and love of the Divine. From within yourself and from others.
Does it get any better than that?
No, it does not.
Some people are better loved from afar.
When you tap into your Higher Power, it becomes clearer who those people are.
Do the folks around you lift you up? Do they make you feel better about yourself? Do they help strengthen your relationship with the Divine?
Those are the ones to keep around.
The others can still get your love.
But it’s offered from a healthy space of miles.
Indeed, it can be easier to offer them love and blessings when you’re not clouded by your own judgment and negativity.
It actually serves you both to have some distance.
There are over seven billion people on this planet, all with their own relationship with their Higher Power.
We can’t be friends with all of them.
Why not surround yourself with those who lift you up?
I recently came up with a little mantra to say when choosing a healthy distance between me and someone else:
Try it, you’ll like it!
So, those are three ways spiritual practice can improve your relationship with others.
Got any to add? Share your comments below!