I admit it.
I care what other people think of me.
Though not nearly as much as I used to.
But even much-less-than-I-used-to is still too much for me.
So lately, I’ve been working on letting go of other people’s opinions even more.
Or should I say, what I think their opinions are.
Because, really, it’s the made-up stuff in my head that really gets in my way.
My super-crafty mind comes up with all kinds of ideas about what other people are thinking about me, most of which – when I have the opportunity to check them out – are not true.
With that in mind, I recently came up with a wacky technique that’s really helping me release my concern about other people’s opinions.
My concern about what other people think is exacerbated by a specific phenomenon.
Namely, that when I’m out in the world, I often get stared at.
And just for the record, this is not a crazy paranoid fantasy. Melissa can vouch for me on this.
We both assume the Frequent Staring By Strangers is because I’m so androgynous.
And I get it. If I see someone who’s super androgynous, I want to look to.
Most people are probably staring because they want to figure out if I’m a man or a woman.
Other people are probably looking because they want to know how I attain such smooth and bodacious Farrah-Fawcett-like hairstylings.
Oh wait, my hair looks nothing like Farrah Fawcett’s.
I actually have no idea why people might be staring at me.
That’s where the crazy comes in.
So here’s what I do now instead.
Let’s say Person A is giving me the ol’ stare down.
I used to imagine that the contents of their head looked something like this:
But how do I know that’s what they’re thinking?
Chances are, the contents of their head look more like this
I mean, we think it’s all about us. But it’s really not all about us.
Most people are way more concerned about themselves than anything else.
After all, that’s why we think other people are thinking about us. We’re thinking about ourselves. Why wouldn’t they be too?
But they’re not!
So the next time you find yourself worried about what someone might be thinking about you, just imagine the list in their head.
And the fact that you’re Item #158 on that list.
How do you let go of other people’s opinions? Share your comments below!
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