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How Do You Make Peace with Aging?

photo: Jenny Downing on flickr

photo: Jenny Downing on flickr

Dear Meli,

I’m embarrassed to admit this, because I know that acceptance is the key to true spirituality, but I really don’t like getting older. It sucks. My body doesn’t work as well as it used to. People treat me differently. My hair is all grey now, and I’m aware that in many situations I simply get overlooked because of how I look. Older people aren’t valued in American society. I know that this doesn’t affect my ultimate spiritual magnificence, but I can’t help but be affected by society as a whole – and how I’m treated. Any wise words on aging?

Aging and Agitated

Dear Aging,

I am truly saddened by how we, in the United States, view our elders. As we age, we get better and wiser! I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t go back to ANY earlier age! Life has gotten better and better for me every year.

But I understand your experience and know that you aren’t alone in this!

Here are some things I suggest to counteract the fallout of elder-invisibility: 

1) Hang out with others who are your age and older. Not only will you bring value to those older, you will feel younger with them – because you are! (I have a dear friend in his 70’s who sings at old folks homes. It’s incredibly enriching for everyone!)

2) Find a way (there are organizations for such things) to mentor and/or hang out with someone younger. This is a wonderful way to share your wisdom. Because the setting and circumstances are specifically created to support you sharing your wisdom, it has a better likelihood of being well received. This way, if you are in a situation where there is less than deep honoring of you, it’s not your only experience.

3) Continue to do what you are passionate about, and share that. Whether this is walking, knitting, or just chatting with people about life, there is a place where your gifts will be welcome and received. This will help remind you of the value that your lifetime of experience has garnered you. Sharing your value is a great way to notice you’ve got a lot of it! :-) The good you share will bless others, and the appreciation others have as a result will be a blessing for you!

We are a young nation. In time, I’m certain we will wake up to the realty that the wisdom that comes with age should be held in the high regard. As opposed to only honoring the innocence of the youth (in all their lack of experience with life). Meanwhile, be aware that there are plenty of young people who feel unseen because of their youth.

4) In your personal prayer practice, feel your wisdom and the gratitude you have for feeling celebrated by others. Feel this as if it is already happening. How do you stand and walk? How do you act in the world? And then, stand, walk and act this way. There is much to be said for being a commanding presence due to your own self-esteem, and knowing your own value.

And finally,

5) Have more fun! This goes along with #3, but might be in addition. If your passion is not a great joy-additive to your life, find what is, and do that as much as you possibly can! Joy, like love, heals everything.

Blessings and Love to you in all you do!


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6 Responses to How Do You Make Peace with Aging?

  1. Karen Money Williams August 9, 2016 at 9:22 am #

    Very nice pointers, Meli!

    I try to give little attention to what society thinks or doesn’t think about aging.

    I’m thankful for growing older and happy to experience life, no matter what my age.

    I’m also thankful for all the medical advances that help us live longer and stay robust.

    I stay busy, involved, and engaged in life — always new projects. I keep learning and exploring, even if it’s simply via the computer or a good TV show.

    I remind myself that aging doesn’t have to include deterioration as long as I keep my mental focus in a good-feeling place. :)

    • Melissa Phillippe August 9, 2016 at 12:40 pm #

      Hi Karen! I appreciate your pointing out all these awesome things – like medical advances, and the importance of staying engaged with life. Like you say, even great TV shows or things on the computer can be a wonderful way to stay interested in life and all the wonderful things that are happening all the time. Yay!! Lots of love to you, Meli

  2. Sam August 10, 2016 at 9:33 am #

    Thank you Melissa for posting these wonderful supportive ideas on aging as we do all get there whether we want to or not! Lol. For me, I have found that focusing on gratitude for all that I can do is a great start. Then I remind myself that age is just a number and choose not to let that number rule my world. We are all amazing, beautiful souls worthy of much happiness.
    Peace to All, Sam

    • Melissa Phillippe August 10, 2016 at 8:13 pm #

      Hi Sam! Yes, focusing on gratitude is a wonderful place to start – and end – and begin again! Truly! And I agree with you that age is just a number – I heard recently that people who forgot how old they are as they age are often WAY healthier! (Now I don’t feel so bad about always forgetting my age!) Peace to you! Meli

  3. River August 10, 2016 at 4:24 pm #

    I have met society’s thoughts on aging head on. Not being hired for jobs because of age is hard to prove but I think it plays a part in my experience. So rather than giving up, I am just creating my own job on my own terms! LOL

    Also, I keep in mind the Law of Attraction. I love people of all ages and keep my radiant, loving, wise head held high. I know that attitude will bring someone who will be affected by the words I speak with care.

    Meli, thanks for this one. We are forever beings!

    • Melissa Phillippe August 10, 2016 at 8:11 pm #

      Hi River, I love what you’re saying here. Creating a job on your own terms is Awesome!! And thanks for the reminder about Law of Attraction – yes! I absolutely agree that this allows all kinds of wonderful people and opportunities to continue to flow into your life. Thank you for these wonderful ideas! Love and Blessings, Meli

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