photo: Morgan on flickr

photo: Morgan on flickr

Dear Meli,

A few years ago, I had a reading done by an astrologer. She was recommended to me by a friend of mind. Even though I was resistant to going, the reading was amazing. It was like the astrologer could read my mind – she knew so much about me without me having to say anything. Since then, I’ve been going back to her for regular readings. Overall, it’s been a great experience, except for one thing. Sometimes I feel like I’m giving my power away to her. I’m finding that I’m trusting myself less and relying on her more. In any decision I make, I need to know what my chart/my astrologer says about it. I’m not sure if I should keep going to her or not – and I can’t ask for her feedback about it! So I’m asking you!

Haunted by My Horoscope


Dear Haunted,

I can relate to this. It can be very seductive to imagine we’ve found a source that knows what’s best for us when we feel unsure. I have found that sometimes astrology (and other things I’ve encountered through the years, for that matter) can seem like a great way to be guided in times of confusion.

However, only you  know when something feels really right to you. Like all-the-way-through-your-being-right.  I have had the suggestion from astrology, and/or other sources, that it was a great time to take action on something, but I knew in my innermost being that it was not the right time for me.

I think these kinds of tools can be helpful for potential tendencies. For example, perhaps you feel unsure about whether it’s the best time to do something, or if two weeks from now might be better. And you can’t see it making a big difference in outcome except for some of that energy-juju stuff. Then, maybe paying attention to something like the astrology couldn’t hurt.

But what if your best friend came to you with a challenge? Let’s say they were madly in love, and they knew they’d found their person. There was no question in their heart or mind that this was the beloved they’ve waited for. But let’s say they were conflicted because their astrologer, or psychic, or even minister or mom, said that now wasn’t the time for this relationship.

If it were me, I’d want to know more about the information my friend was given. Then I’d check in with my own gut to feel how true it might seem. And I might even tell my friend what my own opinion was, based on all of this. But, ultimately, I would support my friend in following their own inner guidance. Wouldn’t you?

Listening to your own inner knowing, that still small voice within, can’t be beat! It might tell you to take action when it seems crazy to do so. And if it does, trust me – it’s the right thing to do!

Happy decision-making!


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