When I first try a new behavior, it feels like I’m pretending to be someone I’m not. Emotionally healthy and mature person who easily sets boundaries? That’s not me! But there’s only one way to become that person, and that’s to ascertain where I want to set boundaries...
Setting boundaries is both really hard and really easy. If you’re not used to setting boundaries, they’re really hard. You try to set them, then feel guilty, then change your mind, then unset them. Which only makes it even harder to set them next time. On the other...
