Dear Meli, I have a friend I’ve known since college. I love her dearly, but lately it’s getting harder and harder to hang out with her. She’s always complaining. She complains about her job. She complains about her wife. She complains about her...
When I’m being critical, it can feel like I’m simply being honest. But so much is being left out. Without gratitude and appreciation in the mix, criticism and negativity make a bitter brew. Today I remember to start with gratitude. When I do, I see how much there is...
There are so many things I can do before I say something unhelpful. I can take a breath. I can take a minute – or more! I can examine what’s going on inside me that I may be trying to project onto someone else. And I can touch into the heart of me and find my sense of...
I’m in charge of what comes out of my mouth. Sometimes it feels like I’m not – something slips out that I didn’t intend to say out loud. But most of the time, there’s a tiny gap between my thought and my out-loud articulation of that thought. That tiny gap is where...
Grumbletudes can be alluring at times. What’s wrong with complaining a little? Especially when I feel like I’ve been wronged, or someone is being especially annoying. But Grumbletudes are like mice: they tend to reproduce at an alarming rate. Before I know it, I’m...
