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Why You Can’t Be Anything You Want. And Why That’s a Good Thing.

photo: Rob Boudon on flickr

photo: Rob Boudon on flickr

In the New Age/Metaphysical/Woo-Woo movement, we’re fond of saying that you can be, do or have anything you want.

Wanna write a bestseller?!

You can do it!

Wanna live in a mansion?!

It’s yours!

Wanna be a rock star?!

Rock on with your bad self!

photo: Robert Bejil on flickr

photo: Robert Bejil on flickr

But is it really  true that we can be, do or have anything we want? Can we all be mansion-dwelling, multimillionaire rock stars if we just believe we can be?!

A while back, I read a book lately that totally answers this question.

The book is called The Great Work of Your Life, by Stephen Cope. I gobbled it up in about a week. Then I read it again.

The book is all about the Bhagavad Gita and the concept of dharma.

What is dharma?

It’s what Spirit tells us to do.

Not like: Eat your beans, they’re good for you.

But like: Hey, check it out! If you do this thing I’m telling you to do, it will bring you greater fulfillment and peace than any other path you could possibly follow. Not only that, this path will lead you closer to Me, the Divine! What do you say? You wanna do it?!

photo: Mateus Lunardi Dutra on flickr

photo: Mateus Lunardi Dutra on flickr

You’d think we’d all jump at an offer like that, but we don’t.

We don’t because our dharma often scares us. Or it’s not what others think we should do. Or it doesn’t seem practical. Or we’re afraid we’ll fail and make a fool of ourselves. Or a million other reasons we come up with to avoid the one thing we are here to do.

Though it’s actually not just one thing. In my lifetime thus far, I’ve been a student, a farmer, a counselor, a writer and now a writer/speaker/spoken word artist.

In every case, I was doing what the Divine led me to do.

Which brings me back to this idea of being/having/doing it all.

Yes, we’re certainly free to try anything we like. And we’re certainly free to claim and affirm and visualize anything we like.

photo: Vox Efx on flickr

photo: Vox Efx on flickr

But: if we’re not in alignment with the Divine when we do so, we’re not going to like the results.

And that doesn’t mean we can pick anything we like – being a rock star, for example – and then get into alignment and then we can have that thing.

No, the trick is to get into alignment first, and then let the alignment with the Divine direct the course of your desires.

It’s not most people’s dharma to be a rock star.

And that’s a good thing.

All of us have a unique gift to share with the world.

The world needs it. The world wants it. And it’s up to us to figure out what it is and then share it with the world.

photo: Aristocrats-hat on flickr

photo: Aristocrats-hat on flickr

But Z, you say. What if I don’t know what that gift is?!

In my progression from student to farmer to writer/speaker/spoken word artist, I was following where the Divine was leading me. As I did so, I had the sensation of getting closer and closer to what I was really here to do.

Being a farmer was awesome and just what I needed to do at the time, but it wasn’t it. Same with all the other stuff that followed.

Sometimes the process of finding our dharma means trying things out and seeing what sticks.

In his book, Cope points out that sometimes people are really really close to their dharma, and they have to just make a few small adjustments in order to hit it spot on.

In my case, I knew that writing fiction was really really close but wasn’t quite it. But by being willing to try it out, it led me to the next thing, which was the whole writer/speaker/spoken word artist gig.

photo: will bakx

photo: will bakx

Which is totally my dharma.

Even though it scares me sometimes. Even though it’s challenging me like nothing ever has.

It’s also leading me closer to Life in all its wonderful, amazing, messy glory.

So here’s the deal:

Find a way to get in the flow of Source Energy.

Dance. Sing. Meditate. Spend time in nature. Hang out with people who make you laugh.

Whatever it is, do it! And then do it some more.

The more you’re in the flow, the more you can listen to the call of the Divine. And when you hear that call, answer it!

Even if it’s scary. Even if you might make a fool out of yourself.

We’re all fools. And the sooner you realize this, and show the world your foolish self, the happier you’ll be.

Plus, when you’re living life full out, you know what everyone will call you?

A rock star.

photo: D. Begley on flickr

photo: D. Begley on flickr

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10 Responses to Why You Can’t Be Anything You Want. And Why That’s a Good Thing.

  1. Julie Schmidt October 21, 2014 at 8:16 am #

    This is great Z! I appreciate that you brought Dharma into this because that is such a powerful word, practice, experience and being-ness. And you made it easy to digest and understand – like you normally do! You know me the Religious Science Hindu! Dharma is key for me for Dharma is that which binds all that there is together, that which works for connectivity. It is correct judgment, not what arises from the ego or from a longing for power but from the right action of God within. Dharma is living my life purpose, to be what I have come here to give and offer. I cannot live another person’s life, being a rock star is not for me. I must be who I am and this life journey is finding out what that is. The truest Dharma is the prayer, “thy will be done”, for it is surrendering all to God and knowing it is God in me who acts.

    • Z Egloff October 21, 2014 at 11:13 am #

      Hi Julie!

      I love the phrase “Thy will be done.” I know that this idea is not for everyone, but for me it really sums it up. I like that you reminded me/us of this phrase in relationship to dharma. When we really get the true meaning behind it, everything starts to flow.

      Thank you! :)


  2. Claire October 21, 2014 at 9:13 am #

    Do you think there might be room in the world for two professional goofballs/ministers? It’s possible I may be taking ministry WAY too seriously!

    • Z Egloff October 21, 2014 at 11:14 am #

      Hi Claire,

      Even if the whole world was full of goofball ministers, there would ALWAYS be room for more. So welcome to the club!! 😉


  3. Janet October 21, 2014 at 12:33 pm #

    Me too, me too–I wanna be a minister/goofball–but not that rap thing, I will leave that to those who are more suited to that gig!

    • Z Egloff October 21, 2014 at 2:21 pm #

      Hi Janet,

      I don’t know how to break this to you, but you already ARE a goofball minister! 😉


  4. Jackie October 21, 2014 at 12:37 pm #

    I haven’t found my dharma yet, but it must be in Floriday because that is where Spirit led me. I know I was led because everything went so smoothly – selling, traveling, house buying and moving in. Now – to live the life and find out why I was led to Florida. By the way – I love it here, people are so nice, strangers smile back at me. Maybe all I’m supposed to do is smile and people to make their day?? Don’t know, but I’m certain to have a good time finding out. Hugs to all.

    • Z Egloff October 21, 2014 at 2:22 pm #

      Hi Jackie,

      Congratulations on your new adventure. That sounds fun! I’m so happy that you landed somewhere that suits you. I look forward to hearing what happens next. . . .


  5. Wayne Haught October 21, 2014 at 10:34 pm #

    Rock star is a relatively flexible term. Right? It could still be my dharma. Right? Even though I’m not currently one, as far as I can tell.

    • Z Egloff October 22, 2014 at 11:29 am #

      Hey Wayne,

      When I was writing this, I was aware that being a rock star – and all the various ways that this can manifest – very well may be the dharma of some of the readers of the piece.

      You have a CD! Actually, more than one! You are inherently cool! You wear black leather shoes!

      You do the math.


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