Comments on: 6 Things You Need to Know About Boundaries. Plus: The Best Demonstration of Boundaries EVER!!

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The First Step in Setting a Boundary | Oh My God LIfe! — Tue, 30 Aug 2016 08:17:34 +0000

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How Is Your Hidden Agenda Affecting Your Life? | Oh My God LIfe! — Thu, 07 May 2015 22:08:26 +0000

[…] good to take a step back and assess a new situation. There are times when we need to set a boundary, and the word “No” is a vital part of […]

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 18:59:19 +0000

In reply to Susan Starbuck.

Hi Susan,

Yes, I notice that boundaries show up everywhere, even with our pets. Our cat, Lucy, is a great teacher for me, as far as boundaries. She seems to have no problem setting – and keeping – them. Once again, she is my spiritual teacher. And when I set boundaries with her, I notice that she might be pissy at first, but then she forgives me very quickly. Yet another lesson.

It’s never too late to keep learning, eh?

XOZ

By: Susan Starbuck

Susan Starbuck — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 16:04:29 +0000

“Life in Z – D.” Thank you Z. I am catching up on reading your wise, funny, so true, sooooooo very well written blog! Boundaries!!!!!!!! Why r they so hard for me. At least I KNOW I it is really hard for me to set boundaries. (MY cat and I r fighting for my lap right now where I have my keyboard. I don’t want to make Rascal uncomfortable !!!!!?????? What do u mean? I can’t set Boundaries???!!!???? Sometimes I don’t realize till later that I should have set a boundary, sent a clearer message. Really hard for me someimes. Still working on it despite the fact that I am evolving into an “older” {gasp} “mature”, “wise” woman [?!?!?!]

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How Is Your Hidden Agenda Affecting Your Life? | Life in ZD — Tue, 24 Jul 2012 08:18:58 +0000

[…] good to take a step back and assess a new situation. There are times when we need to set a boundary, and the word “No” is a vital part of […]

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 16:58:10 +0000

In reply to Laura.

Hi Laura,

Thank you for your comments! I like that you point out the importance of that question: What is mine to do? It’s such a big question. And it can bring up answers that bring discomfort at first. But the answers can lead to huge benefits as well.

I also like that you point out that we already know the answers. They reside in our selves, our bodies, our intuition. Sometimes, this work can even be fun! :

Great to hear from you,

XOZ

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 04:37:23 +0000

Dear Z! What a perfect invitation for me, for today! To have your invitation and support for just the simple consideration of what is mine to do? Of course I can sense a lot about the discomfort of others but that doesn’t remove the natural need to sense what is right for me to do. Thank you for the heads up! It was the perfect day to notice more about this and to do something with it! Simple and wonderful how easy it is really to check with one’s inner self, or body in the larger sense, or inner wisdom, or presence, or center. The something that actually does know something about what would be more right for me, today.
Thank you more, Love, Laura

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 18:07:45 +0000

In reply to michael frank.

Hi Michael,

Thank you for the analogy in terms of setting boundaries. Sometimes it can really help to ground these ideas in actual, physical reality. Like yarn. 🙂

And good for you for making sumpin big and substantial!! Go you!!

Keep breathing,

XOZ

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 18:01:36 +0000

In reply to georgia.

Hi Georgia,

Thank you for this thoughtful and thorough description of the challenges involved in setting and keeping boundaries. Beautiful! I especially appreciate your awareness of the underlying fear of loss of love. So true.

I remember when I first learned about this topic, in my early twenties. I realized, pretty early on, that there were two choices – setting boundaries, or not – and that neither one felt good. In other words, even though setting boundaries served me in the long run, in the short run it was extremely uncomfortable. Especially to the people-pleaser part of me.

Thank you for letting me know that the rap was well received. 🙂 It was SO fun to do – I’m glad that others enjoyed it as well!

XOZ

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 17:49:25 +0000

In reply to squirrel.

Hi Squirrel!!

As I read your comments, I notice the strong link betweenlLove and boundaries. It’s interesting, as those words aren’t often linked – at least, in most people’s minds. But I’m seeing, in your evolution, the essential link between the two. Congratulations on growing in love for yourself! There’s nothing better.

And thanks for the feedback about the rap. Yay! 🙂

XOZ