View the post > How Can I Let Go of My Past Mistake?

No, I’m not going to talk about lying to myself about my sexuality. Or my gender expression. I’ve covered those before. This lie has to do with something much Bigger. Though, at the time, I thought I was the biggest thing around. My family rarely went to church, so it was easy to sidestep the […]

View the post > My Teenage Lie and the Truth I Denied

Dear Meli, I was in a spiritual community for about 10 years. For a lot of this time, I lived on site with our spiritual leader. I was married when I was in the community, and my husband and I lived there together. And now the tricky part. Our spiritual leader was a proponent of […]

View the post > How Do I Move On From Guru Abuse?

They say that necessity is the mother of invention. But sometimes? Sometimes necessity is a mother. If you know what I mean. And I think you do. Let’s go back to 2012, shall we? 2012 was the last year of the Mayan calendar. A lot of folks thought the world was going to end in […]

View the post > Necessity Is a Mother

Dear Meli, My best friend has a new partner. At first, I was really happy for her. But the last few times I’ve hung out with both of them, I’m noticing that my friend’s partner is not nice to her. It’s pretty stressful to be around. I wasn’t sure whether or not to say something to […]

View the post > Help! My Friend’s Partner Is Abusive!

Lately the world has felt like a snow globe. Except instead of snow gently falling around a bucolic winter scene when the globe is jiggled, we’re looking at institutions crumbling, people dying, and the planet erupting in extreme weather patterns. No gentle falling snow about it. I don’t know about you, but a question I’ve […]

View the post > What’s Your Role in the Love Revolution?

If you’ve ever dipped your toes into the wild and wacky waters of the New Age river, you’ve heard about something called the ascension process. Most simply put, ascension is the process of waking up spiritually. You become aware that you are more than just a human in a body. You become aware that you […]

View the post > What I Got Wrong About the Ascension Process

I don’t know if there’s anything more frustrating than wrestling with technology. Okay, maybe wrestling with technology while blindfolded, with my hands tied behind my back. I guess that would be worse? But dealing with technological glitches with eyes open and hands free is plenty frustrating, thank you very much. Speaking of which. I’m currently […]

View the post > Zen and the Art of Frustration

You’re probably not surprised to hear that my wife Melissa has taught me a lot about love. But did you know that Melissa’s car has also schooled me on the subject? Melissa’s car is a blue Honda Fit. We call her Zippity, on account of her ability to zip around the road with aplomb. She’s […]

View the post > What Driving Melissa’s Car Taught Me About Love

Dear Meli, My wife of many years is in the end stages of cancer. Although it is hard, both of us are accepting the process and it is actually beautiful in some ways. The hard part is with our friends and acquaintances. We are part of a large spiritual community and everyone wants to either […]

View the post > How Can I Navigate Other People’s Demands With My Dying Spouse?