Dear Meli, I was in a spiritual community for about 10 years. For a lot of this time, I lived on site with our spiritual leader. I was married when I was in the community, and my husband and I lived there together. And now the tricky part. Our spiritual leader was a proponent of […]

View the post > How Do I Move On From Guru Abuse?

Dear Meli, I recently had a big dream come true. Incredible, right? So why am I feeling so conflicted? I was invited to be a part of a professional organization that I’ve admired for decades. At first, it was great. But now, not so much. The biggest problem is how much energy it takes. I’m […]

View the post > What If You Hate Your Dream Come True?

Dear Meli, My best friend has a new partner. At first, I was really happy for her. But the last few times I’ve hung out with both of them, I’m noticing that my friend’s partner is not nice to her. It’s pretty stressful to be around. I wasn’t sure whether or not to say something to […]

View the post > Help! My Friend’s Partner Is Abusive!

Even though our Guru kitty, Max, is One with all of creation, there’s one thing he’d rather not be One with, thankyouverymuch. That thing? Loud noises. When the evening of the Fourth of July rolls around every year, we need to close all the windows in the house and turn on the noise machines in […]

View the post > My Guru Has a Tail, Episode 23: The Storm

Dear Meli, I have a friend who watches the news every day. She’s really upset about everything that’s going on in the world and it’s really stressing her out. I, on the other hand, do not watch the news. I know that there’s a lot going on in the world and it makes my heart […]

View the post > How Can I Be There for My News Junkie Friend?

There are a lot more than two traits of spiritually mature people. But. I love lists! I love hearing about qualities of certain types of people and seeing if I fit/don’t fit with them. 12 Traits of a Narcissist. I don’t want any of those! 15 Traits of a Perfect Person Who Also Knows That […]

View the post > 2 Traits of the Spiritually Mature

Lately the world has felt like a snow globe. Except instead of snow gently falling around a bucolic winter scene when the globe is jiggled, we’re looking at institutions crumbling, people dying, and the planet erupting in extreme weather patterns. No gentle falling snow about it. I don’t know about you, but a question I’ve […]

View the post > What’s Your Role in the Love Revolution?

Dear Meli, I am a happily married woman. Or at least, I used to think so. Lately, I have been feeling less attracted to my husband and more attracted to, um, just about everyone. Well, not everyone. But I’m finding myself attracted to other men a lot. Some of them are guys I know, some […]

View the post > What Do I Do About Being Attracted to People Outside My Marriage? 

If you’ve ever dipped your toes into the wild and wacky waters of the New Age river, you’ve heard about something called the ascension process. Most simply put, ascension is the process of waking up spiritually. You become aware that you are more than just a human in a body. You become aware that you […]

View the post > What I Got Wrong About the Ascension Process

I don’t know if there’s anything more frustrating than wrestling with technology. Okay, maybe wrestling with technology while blindfolded, with my hands tied behind my back. I guess that would be worse? But dealing with technological glitches with eyes open and hands free is plenty frustrating, thank you very much. Speaking of which. I’m currently […]

View the post > Zen and the Art of Frustration