Dear Meli, I have been a spiritual seeker for over 4 decades. When I first discovered spirituality, I was very much striving for enlightenment. I read books about other people who had “woken up” spiritually, and I wanted the same thing. Then, over time, I released that goal. I heard other spiritual seekers and teachers […]

View the post > Is Enlightenment an Achievable Goal?

Dear Meli, About a year ago, I was asked to be a part of a new business in my town. At first, things were amazing. My two partners and I were really jazzed about setting up something innovative and new. Their business philosophy seemed to align with everything I stand for and believe in, spiritually and […]

View the post > Does Law of Attraction Mean You Don’t Need to Do Anything But Visualize?

Back when I was in psychology grad school, we were taught that when a couple is having the same fight again and again – over how to load the dishwasher properly, for example – the fight was merely a decoy. A cover for something deeper. As a therapist, it was our job to uncover the […]

View the post > How to Solve a Perpetual Couple’s Fight

No, I’m not going to talk about lying to myself about my sexuality. Or my gender expression. I’ve covered those before. This lie has to do with something much Bigger. Though, at the time, I thought I was the biggest thing around. My family rarely went to church, so it was easy to sidestep the […]

View the post > My Teenage Lie and the Truth I Denied

Dear Meli, I was in a spiritual community for about 10 years. For a lot of this time, I lived on site with our spiritual leader. I was married when I was in the community, and my husband and I lived there together. And now the tricky part. Our spiritual leader was a proponent of […]

View the post > How Do I Move On From Guru Abuse?

They say that necessity is the mother of invention. But sometimes? Sometimes necessity is a mother. If you know what I mean. And I think you do. Let’s go back to 2012, shall we? 2012 was the last year of the Mayan calendar. A lot of folks thought the world was going to end in […]

View the post > Necessity Is a Mother

Dear Meli, I recently had a big dream come true. Incredible, right? So why am I feeling so conflicted? I was invited to be a part of a professional organization that I’ve admired for decades. At first, it was great. But now, not so much. The biggest problem is how much energy it takes. I’m […]

View the post > What If You Hate Your Dream Come True?

Dear Meli, My best friend has a new partner. At first, I was really happy for her. But the last few times I’ve hung out with both of them, I’m noticing that my friend’s partner is not nice to her. It’s pretty stressful to be around. I wasn’t sure whether or not to say something to […]

View the post > Help! My Friend’s Partner Is Abusive!

Even though our Guru kitty, Max, is One with all of creation, there’s one thing he’d rather not be One with, thankyouverymuch. That thing? Loud noises. When the evening of the Fourth of July rolls around every year, we need to close all the windows in the house and turn on the noise machines in […]

View the post > My Guru Has a Tail, Episode 23: The Storm

Dear Meli, I have a friend who watches the news every day. She’s really upset about everything that’s going on in the world and it’s really stressing her out. I, on the other hand, do not watch the news. I know that there’s a lot going on in the world and it makes my heart […]

View the post > How Can I Be There for My News Junkie Friend?