Dear Meli, I have been a spiritual seeker for over forty years. I meditate daily and I try to be a good person in the world. My job for many years was in the non-profit arena, working with kids. Near the end of my time of working directly with kids (I eventually transferred to a supervisory […]

View the post > How Can I Let Go of My Past Mistake?

Is it possible to have too much love for yourself? Is that a thing? A friend of mine has two kids, a girl and a boy. When the kids were little, their school had them fill out a self-evaluation form. They had to assess their skills across a variety of areas. The boy assessed himself […]

View the post > Can You Love Yourself Too Much?  

Dear Meli,  I grew up in a strict, religious household. Once I left home, and the church, I thought I’d never go back. And I haven’t. But I do have an ever-increasing interest in spirituality. This time, though, it’s not about rules from without. It’s about discovering the Spirit that lives within and all around […]

View the post > How Do I Release Religious Sexual Shame? 

Low self-esteem is like dental plaque. We all have it. But no one wants to talk about it. Including me. But, for the purposes of this post, and in the hopes that maybe some of you can relate and it might help a little bit, here goes… For a big chunk of my life, I’ve […]

View the post > 2 Interventions That Are Helping My Self-Love Game

Capitalism has done a lot of weird things to human beings. One of the weirdest is telling us we should equate our self-worth with productivity. If I’m super productive, I’m super worthy. If I’m not, I’m … not. Yeah. That’s a bigfat lie. And yet… The whole productivity piece is still tricky for me. I […]

View the post > The Worst Thing to Do When You’re Overwhelmed with Work

Dear Meli, A few years ago, I had an incident with a friend. The incident is so embarrassing to me, I can’t even tell you what happened. My friend and I are good now, but I can’t let go of my embarrassment. I’ve tried meditation. I’ve tried release work. I’ve tried everything I can think […]

View the post > How Do I Let Go of Embarrassment?

What’s your relationship to the word “No”? Are you best buds, hanging out on the regular, painting the town with your ability to set firm, healthy boundaries? Or are you and “No” estranged, with little understanding of each other, suspicious and afraid to build a sustainable connection? I used to be solidly in the latter […]

View the post > Why You Need a “No” to Get to Your “Yes”

Dear Meli, This is maybe going to sound weird, but is it unspiritual to want to look good? I used to be really conflicted about my gender expression. But lately, I’ve been dressing exactly how I want to, even though it doesn’t fit with society’s views of how an Assigned Male at Birth person should […]

View the post > Is It Unspiritual to Want to Look Good?

Living your life in a public forum comes with a bunch of cool things. Getting to share your work with a wider audience. Receiving appreciation from peeps who are touched by what you do. Feeling encouraged to keep going because you can see you’re making a difference. And then there’s the other side. The Hater […]

View the post > What I Learned From the Haters

Let’s cut to the chase: I’m talking about assumptions. Assumptions suck. That’s why sayings like “Don’t make assumptions” make their way into books about powerful agreements that have the capacity to change your life. And we have groovy little aphorisms like “When I assume, I make an ass out of you and me.” Indeed, I’m […]

View the post > The Thing We All Do That Seriously F**ks Us Up