Dear Meli, I have been part of a meditation group for a long time. One of the members is an old friend. For a while now, my friend has been wanting more and more of my time. I love my friend, but he tends to be really negative and I feel drained after hanging with […]

View the post > Can I Break Up With My Friend?

Back when I was in psychology grad school, we were taught that when a couple is having the same fight again and again – over how to load the dishwasher properly, for example – the fight was merely a decoy. A cover for something deeper. As a therapist, it was our job to uncover the […]

View the post > How to Solve a Perpetual Couple’s Fight

Dear Meli, My best friend has a new partner. At first, I was really happy for her. But the last few times I’ve hung out with both of them, I’m noticing that my friend’s partner is not nice to her. It’s pretty stressful to be around. I wasn’t sure whether or not to say something to […]

View the post > Help! My Friend’s Partner Is Abusive!

Dear Meli, I have a friend who watches the news every day. She’s really upset about everything that’s going on in the world and it’s really stressing her out. I, on the other hand, do not watch the news. I know that there’s a lot going on in the world and it makes my heart […]

View the post > How Can I Be There for My News Junkie Friend?

Dear Meli, I am a happily married woman. Or at least, I used to think so. Lately, I have been feeling less attracted to my husband and more attracted to, um, just about everyone. Well, not everyone. But I’m finding myself attracted to other men a lot. Some of them are guys I know, some […]

View the post > What Do I Do About Being Attracted to People Outside My Marriage? 

Dear Meli, I am newly back in the dating world after divorcing my wife last year. I feel like I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing! Case in point: I recently met someone. She’s really bright, really funny, and really kind. But she’s not at all into spirituality. I’ve been on a spiritual path […]

View the post > How Important is Spiritual Compatibility?

You’re probably not surprised to hear that my wife Melissa has taught me a lot about love. But did you know that Melissa’s car has also schooled me on the subject? Melissa’s car is a blue Honda Fit. We call her Zippity, on account of her ability to zip around the road with aplomb. She’s […]

View the post > What Driving Melissa’s Car Taught Me About Love

Dear Meli, My wife of many years is in the end stages of cancer. Although it is hard, both of us are accepting the process and it is actually beautiful in some ways. The hard part is with our friends and acquaintances. We are part of a large spiritual community and everyone wants to either […]

View the post > How Can I Navigate Other People’s Demands With My Dying Spouse?

Dear Meli, A few years ago, I got out of a toxic marriage. I am so grateful that I had the courage to leave. It took a lot to remove myself from the whole situation, but I did it, and I’ve grown a lot since then. Which brings me to my current dilemma. I’m currently […]

View the post > How Do I Get Over Unrequited Love?

Dear Meli, My wife and I have been married for about 10 years, and we are very compatible. We share the same spiritual beliefs and practices, which helps a lot. But we’re also just really compatible in general. At least, I thought we were! We recently started a business together and it’s bringing up a […]

View the post > Help! My Spouse and I Have Incompatible Working Styles!