Hi Teresa,

Grief is such a unique and tough one! The emotions will sometimes wait patiently, often totally hidden. Until their time. Or our time? Like when we’re ready to handle the waves of feelings, and process our way through. Even when “processing” just seems like withstanding.

But allowing them, and witnessing them, and loving you all the way through is the way through to the “other side.” The other side isn’t necessarily all sunshine and daisies, but we get used to things. Even grief. We learn to carry it in our pocket, and still experience great joys. If we allow it. Sounds to me like that’s what you’re doing.

Hang in there. One wave at a time. And know that you are loved. You are lovable and enough. And this too shall pass.

Big Hugs and Blessings,
Meli

8 years ago when my husband passed I lost it took in a homeless friend changed my attitude about everything. Made myself believe I was free again. Suddenly 8 years now and the grief is hitting in waves. What’s happening!!

Hi Jess,
This is beautiful. I’m so glad that you were able to move through that with such grace and understanding! Your wife was so fortunate to have such a wise and loving caregiver. And I’m so glad that you have such wonderful memories now. Thank you for this wonderful comment!
BIG Love,
Melissa

Hi Catalina,
Thank you so much for this comment and for sharing your experience. I love that you had a support group to help you through it. What a blessing that must have been! I’m so glad that you were able to make it through and did not end up taking your own life!! It also sounds very hard and very intense. I am grateful that you made it through – and that you are able to feel all your feelings, now on the other side of it. Thank you again for sharing this.
BIG Love and Blessings,
Melissa

I went through this when my mother died of Alzheimer’s. It was very very difficult to take care of her and work full time also (pius I worked in a halfway house for developmentally impaired adults) So I was basically with deranged people 24/7
Finally my mother developed a staph infection and had to be hospitalized and it was there where she died.
She had not recognized anyone for a couple of years and was constantly running away to go “home” frankly, it was a nightmare trying to keep her safe and I really thought I was going to crazy myself.
The relief when she finally passed was overwhelming…but I did feel really guilty about that for a long time….I am absolutely and profoundly grateful to my local Alzheimer’s support group who literally saved me.
I did love my mother, I still do, but dealing alone with her (my siblings lived in other countries) was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through. I even considered suicide and had a plan to leave her in the local Catholic Church with a note and her belongings. I knew the priest and I knew he would make sure she was taken care of. I didn’t think I could stand one more day of it.
Fortunately Spirit had other ideas….but the guilt and relief I felt were very real.

Hi Sandee, Thank you for your comment. I can certainly understand why you would feel relieved when she passed! That sounds challenging. Sending lots of Love!! Melissa

Hi Cher,

BIG Blessings and love to you as you grieve the loss of your husband. What a big and important journey you have been through – and are still moving through. I’m sending you lots and lots of love as you continue to allow yourself to feel all the feelings and move through it!

BIG Love,
Melissa

Hi Liah,

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and experience! You clearly have a rich knowledge of this area of life.

I love what you’re saying here, especially about how important it is to feel all our feelings, no matter what they are! Beautiful!

BIG Love,
Melissa