Comments on: My Prounoun Is “She, I Mean They, Sh**, I’m Sorry!”

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Tue, 17 Aug 2021 21:36:03 +0000

In reply to Wynn.

Hi Wynn,

Thank you for your questions!! Even though “they” sounds plural, people actually use it in singular form all the time. Like if you see a $100 bill on the ground, you might say, “Someone dropped $100 on the ground. I wonder if they realized they did that!” That’s an example of using the singular “they.” We use singular “they” all the time when we don’t know what someone’s gender is. So using “they” for a non binary person is the same, except it’s someone you DO know. Hope that makes sense. Let me know if it doesn’t!

The gender I was born with was “female.” The lingo around that these days is “Assigned Female at Birth,” or AFAB. But as I grew up, I realized that the “female” box doesn’t totally fit me. Neither does the “he” box. “They,” even though it’s used as the singular form, does have the implication of two things, as it’s often used in plural form as well. I think that’s why “they” has caught on as a good pronoun for us gender-rich types. “They” is referring to one person, but in my case, that one person has a whole lotta gender goin’ on!

Thank you again for your questions!! I really appreciate them!

XOZ

By: Wynn

Wynn — Mon, 16 Aug 2021 12:51:17 +0000

Hi Z,
Being one of those people who (at least to this point) has been straight, this was very informative. I will really try to say “they” when I talk to you, but 65 years of being in the dark has created a problem for me. You are a very loving person and a joy to be around, I really appreciate your openness on this subject.
I do have a question. He and she are singular while they means many. Why they? Confusion for me is easy. I hope I am not offending you. Are you thinking about two genders’. One you were born with and one that you really are? Do I have a foot in the mouth issues? I am just trying to understand and you gave me the courage to try.
Love,
Wynn

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 19:29:27 +0000

In reply to KC. Hi KC, Thank you for your comment. This is wonderful. And thank you for your openness and willingness to learn! BIG Love, XOZ

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 19:28:33 +0000

In reply to melanie carter. Hi Melanie, This is so beautifully stated. Thank you for your love and awareness. I appreciate it! XOZ

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 19:27:47 +0000

In reply to Tracy Stewart. Hi Tracy, But what a beautiful work in progress you are!!! I miss seeing you! BIG Love, XOZ

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 19:26:59 +0000

In reply to Tom McCurry. Hi Tom, Thank you so much. And thank you for being YOU as well! BIG Love, XOZ

By: Z Egloff

Z Egloff — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 19:26:34 +0000

In reply to Brian. Hi Brian, Thank you so much for this. I really appreciate it. BIG Love! XOZ

By: Brian

Brian — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 23:00:26 +0000

I really have no comment here other than to say that I thoroughly enjoy and appreciate you and Melissa’s perspectives on just about everything (including this topic) you put out in your blog. You’ve brought a smile to my face on more than one otherwise bleak day.
Thanks for Being

By: Tom McCurry

Tom McCurry — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 20:40:54 +0000

Hi Z,

Since I’ve HAD this conversation with you, and used your “she, I mean, they, sh** I’m sorry!” pronoun, I really appreciate this post. Naturally, I honor you in my heart, and want to honor you with my speech, as well. But it’s nice to receive this grace and understanding from you. Plus, conversation about social change and personal preference is GOOD. Thank you for writing this, and for being exactly who you are.

Love,
Tom

By: Tracy Stewart

Tracy Stewart — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 20:19:14 +0000

Hi Z,
I so relate to Marina’s comments above. Here I’ve know you for years and I still think the pronoun I most often use for you is “she, they sh**, I’m sorry. I’m a work in progress.
Love,
Tracy