Comments on: The Tricky First Step in Setting a Boundary https://ohmygodlife.com/the-tricky-first-step-in-setting-a-boundary/ Tools for Radically Joyful Living Fri, 07 Apr 2023 20:22:38 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.2 By: River https://ohmygodlife.com/the-tricky-first-step-in-setting-a-boundary/#comment-3453 Sun, 04 Sep 2016 03:52:16 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=8144#comment-3453 Perfect! Thanks! R

]]> By: Z Egloff https://ohmygodlife.com/the-tricky-first-step-in-setting-a-boundary/#comment-3452 Sat, 03 Sep 2016 22:27:40 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=8144#comment-3452 In reply to River.

Hmmm. Well, the main template I love to use (and that really works!) is “I” statements. Like: “When you did/said this, I felt ——-.” When I’m speaking from a place of feelings – and my experience – it’s harder for the other person to feel defensive. As far as boundaries, I’ll get clear about what I want, (“I’m going to need….” “I’m not going to be able to….” “I need you to….”) and state that. Other than that, the phrases are going to depend on the specific situation. Hope that helps!

]]> By: River https://ohmygodlife.com/the-tricky-first-step-in-setting-a-boundary/#comment-3451 Sat, 03 Sep 2016 01:00:37 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=8144#comment-3451 Z,
Thanks for the ideas. Could you talk more about those key phrases please?
R

]]> By: Z Egloff https://ohmygodlife.com/the-tricky-first-step-in-setting-a-boundary/#comment-3450 Fri, 02 Sep 2016 21:52:32 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=8144#comment-3450 In reply to River.

Hi River, The best thing that helps me with the nice component is figuring out what I’m going to say ahead of time. If I can communicate by writing it out, all the better. Then I’ll run it by my wife so she can check the potential snark factor. If I’m going to be saying something to the person directly, I’ll still come up with key phrases that are communicating my boundary in an empowered but respectful way. Hope that helps! 🙂 XOZ

]]> By: River https://ohmygodlife.com/the-tricky-first-step-in-setting-a-boundary/#comment-3449 Tue, 30 Aug 2016 13:40:10 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=8144#comment-3449 Hi Z,
Like Wow – Divine timing moment! I have a friend that I needed to set a boundary with because I was feeling taken advantage of. I did it but was snarky about it – I had let it go on too long. So do you have a blog post about how to do this nicely? Boundaries are needful, I know, but how to do them diplomatically is tricky for me. I want to be clear what is and isn’t working for me but be respectful of the other person.

Help please!
River (finding her banks)

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