Comments on: Why Am I So Nervous About My Sibling’s Sobriety? https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/ Tools for Radically Joyful Living Wed, 24 Apr 2024 00:17:02 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Melissa Phillippe https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/#comment-23027 Wed, 24 Apr 2024 00:17:02 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=19487#comment-23027 In reply to Gail Bachman-Wong.

Hi Gail,
Thank you for this reminder and encouragement to keep up the hope for our beloveds who are struggling. Good points, for sure!

I’m SO sorry to hear about the old timers you met when you were 18!!! Makes me wanna go back and have a talk with them! 😋 But I know they were just a perfect part of your journey somehow…but still. OY!

And! CONGRATULATIONS and THANK YOU for your years of sober living! I had a piano teacher in college who, in our final meeting over lunch, reminded me that EVERY time someone is playing or singing music (even rehearsing alone in their own room), they are sending the healing vibrations of music into the ethers…and creating a healing vibration for others. This is what I think of whenever I encounter another “sober family member!” Every day you have lived your life sober has been a blessing to the consciousness of humanity! That’s 46 years of blessings now! So we all thank you!

How fun that we’ll see you this weekend! Seal Beach, here we come!

Thank you for your thoughts and comments. Grateful for the conversation. 🥰

]]> By: Melissa Phillippe https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/#comment-23026 Wed, 24 Apr 2024 00:05:04 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=19487#comment-23026 In reply to Cheryl Casey Decker.

Awww, Cheryl, that’s wonderful! So pleased to hear these were helpful for you! Big hugs and Love to you. Blessings, Melissa

]]> By: Gail Bachman-Wong https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/#comment-23013 Thu, 18 Apr 2024 22:34:13 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=19487#comment-23013 It is not unusual for people in addiction to drugs or alcohol to take many trys before it sticks. But it is important for those around them not to lose hope. We never know when a person is going to hit their bottom. It took me many fits and starts before I hit my ultimate bottom. I found AA at 18, but at the time, old timers told me I was too young to be an alcoholic and that they had spilled more beer than I had drunk. That was all I needed to go out and “research” for another about 10 years. But today, by the Grace of God I am 46 yrs sober. It is so important to aline yourself with people in recovery, if you are to get the support that you need. Even if the family isn’t supportive. Love you both, Look forward to seeing you on the 27th.

]]> By: Cheryl Casey Decker https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/#comment-23003 Wed, 17 Apr 2024 01:20:21 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=19487#comment-23003 The timing of Mel’s message and Tracy’s comments are nothing short of divine interventions for me. Thank you both for sharing your heartfelt, honest, and pure words. You walk the talk and I am grateful.

]]> By: Melissa Phillippe https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/#comment-23002 Tue, 16 Apr 2024 23:44:13 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=19487#comment-23002 In reply to Tracy.

Oh my goodness, Tracy! How heartbreaking!

I agree that the tenderness and trauma of addiction is real, for everyone connected to the user! It is one of the most challenging and excruciating things I experience in my life.

Coming up on my 35-years Clean Birthday! Made me realize, just now, as I write this…I certainly blessed my own life with my choices. but I also blessed – or maybe un-cursed (?) – countless others.

I wouldn’t be writing to you right now, replying to this Dear Meli blog, for instance! And I wouldn’t be doing so from our SoCal/AZ Spring Into Joy 2024 Tour! Because I wouldn’t be doing any of this, if I were still alive at all.

I am deeply grateful for the miracle of sobriety, and now – because of this reply to you and the realization it brought me (thank you very much!) – also for the miracle being so good for so many! What a lovely, lovely thing!

Big Love and Overflowing Gratitude for you. 🥰

]]> By: Tracy https://ohmygodlife.com/why-am-i-so-nervous-about-my-siblings-sobriety/#comment-23001 Tue, 16 Apr 2024 16:57:37 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=19487#comment-23001 Your advice is so right on and tender-hearted. I’ve been witness to sugar addiction in diabetics many times. My younger sister, actually died from it and it was a slow and extremely debilitating death.

I tried to save her with advice, support, etc. and realized that I couldn’t. Any comments I made only made her project her problems on to me. Thank you for holding all of us, who have been hostages to addiction, even when it’s not ours, in the heart of love and forgiveness.

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