Comments on: How Can I Cope With the Death of My Mom? https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/ Tools for Radically Joyful Living Sat, 10 Sep 2022 00:44:44 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Melissa Phillippe https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/#comment-14433 Wed, 24 Mar 2021 23:44:21 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=14572#comment-14433 In reply to Katie Ketchum.

Hi Katie, WOW! This is so beautiful and so amazing and so wonderful. What an amazing gift to receive!! Kudos to you for calling for help – and getting it in such a BIG way. All my love, Meli

]]> By: Melissa Phillippe https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/#comment-14432 Wed, 24 Mar 2021 23:42:50 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=14572#comment-14432 In reply to Steve Jones.

Hi Steve, It certainly is a process. How wonderful that your mom lived as long as she did, and how wonderful how much you love/loved her. Beautiful!! BIG Love, Meli

]]> By: Melissa Phillippe https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/#comment-14431 Wed, 24 Mar 2021 23:41:55 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=14572#comment-14431 In reply to Aleta Ridings.

Hi Aleta, What a beautiful story! I am SO happy that you were able to be with your mom at the end!! What you wrote is a beautiful testament to you mom and your love for her. I am sending you BIG Love as your continue to move through the grieving process. Big Love and Blessings, Meli

]]> By: Aleta Ridings https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/#comment-14429 Wed, 24 Mar 2021 23:10:34 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=14572#comment-14429 I lost my mom on January 12 this year. She was 90 and we were a Covid success story. She never got it, but she had been in a nursing home and I had not hugged or kissed her since March 8 last year until the day I said, “Enough!” And I brought her home to be with me on October 22. It was hard, to be sure. I always said, every day was a struggle, and every day was a joy. She had dementia, but it wasn’t terribly advanced. We had a FANTASTIC 2 1/2 months together and I wish I could play them over and over and over again. She was an incredibly precious human being. I loved/love her DEARLY with my whole heart and do think of her everyday. I am not actively grieving now, as in crying often, but my body knows. I have insomnia at night and then sleep way too late in the day. I am packing to move out of the house she lived in with my Dad since 1992. (He passed Valentine’s Day last year). I’m starting to remember how hard it was to be bound to her and never be able to leave the house without a sitter, but nonetheless, I miss her everyday.

]]> By: Steve Jones https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/#comment-14416 Tue, 23 Mar 2021 20:05:15 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=14572#comment-14416 Just two weeks ago I deeply remembered the passing of my mother. Even after 3 years I have “those moments” when I miss her so much the grieving process comes back to me. Not much time passes in the days of life do I not think about her. Your experiences are real and in my opinion healthy. I’ll never stop loving or remembering my mom, she was that important to me. She lived a nice, happy long life and passed at 90 when no one thought she would get past 80! I miss her dearly!

]]> By: Katie Ketchum https://ohmygodlife.com/how-can-i-cope-with-the-death-of-my-mom/#comment-14415 Tue, 23 Mar 2021 19:14:06 +0000 https://ohmygodlife.com/?p=14572#comment-14415 My mom died in September of last year. Because she tested positive for Covid we could not be with her in the hospital. It was horrible. She was confused and alone. Then we couldn’t have a memorial and be with family. I tried to organize something on zoom but even my cousins aren’t on line much. Every morning since her death I’ve woken up with PTSD like memories of the worst moments in our relationship.
Even my therapist didn’t really ease the pain. Finally in desperation I called out in the shower that I needed to forgive her. Suddenly I felt my body being inhabited and then I experienced her childhood instantly as if I were her. I became her! While crying I forgave her and felt her love for me. I have woken every morning since at peace. I feel like a new person. I don’t doubt she loved me the best she could. A life time of conflict is over. I’m beginning a new life now and am excited about it’s potential. She was always so worried about me being a singer songwriter and my survival. Now I won’t be making decisions in defiance. I’ve freed up so much energy. I miss her, because even though she was critical of me, I loved her. I’m getting to know who I really am.

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