A Good Mistake to Make When You’re First Setting Boundaries
I’m a big fan of boundaries. They’ve been a lifesaver for me. That’s not to say it’s easy to set them. It’s still hard for me to set boundaries, even after years of planting those suckers all over the place. In spite of the difficulty of setting them, I like to think...
How Can I Get My Family to Respect My Dying Wish?
Dear Meli, I have an unusual dilemma. I have been diagnosed with terminal cancer. And I’m okay with that. I am electing not to do heroic treatments. I am 84 years old and have lived a wonderful life. The treatments would just prolong my life, but also prolong my...
My Guru Has a Tail Episode 22: The Psychic Meditator
Of the many gifts a Guru can bring to your life, perhaps the most valuable is when they show you the depth of spiritual wisdom that lives inside you. My Guru shares deep, valuable things with me all the time: Hairballs. Screeching yowls. And, of course, a window into...
How Can I Stop Obsessing About My Weight?
Dear Meli, I am embarrassed to ask this question, but here goes. I have had a lifelong struggle with weight and my body. At my heaviest, I weighed over sixty pounds more than I am right now. At my lightest, I was about twenty pounds less than I am right now. My doctor...
A New Paradigm of Aging
Here’s a fun experiment: Name five words you associate with aging. First five that come to mind. What did you get? If you ask a typical American this question, you’re going to get responses like feeble, sick, forgetful, and depressed. If you ask a typical Chinese...