Dear Meli, Is it okay to be selfish? I always think of it as a bad thing, but recently someone pointed out to me that the people accusing you of being selfish are often wanting you to follow their agenda. How can I learn to be selfish without being obnoxious or overly...
Dear Meli, Jan and I have been best friends for about ten years. I met her through my job, and we immediately hit it off. We have been through a lot of stuff together, and I always thought she had my back. Recently, I found out that she has been saying bad stuff about...
I’ll never forget the first time a woman screamed when I walked into a women’s bathroom. I didn’t want her to scream. I just wanted to pee. But my short hair, tall frame and androgynous features led her to believe that a man had walked into the...
Dear Meli, I have been a follower of spiritual teachings for about a decade, particularly the Law of Attraction. Most of the people I have met who are interested in this kind of teaching are on the liberal end of the political spectrum. I have to say that this...
Dear Meli, I am the godmother of my sister’s children. I was incredibly honored to be asked, and I love my two nephews. There’s only one problem. My sister doesn’t believe in God. She and her husband did the baptism in a church to satisfy his...
I admit it. I care what other people think of me. Though not nearly as much as I used to. But even much-less-than-I-used-to is still too much for me. So lately, I’ve been working on letting go of other people’s opinions even more. Or should I say, what I...
