View the post > The Crucial Difference Between Guilt and Shame

Back when I was in psychology grad school, we were taught that when a couple is having the same fight again and again – over how to load the dishwasher properly, for example – the fight was merely a decoy. A cover for something deeper. As a therapist, it was our job to uncover the […]

View the post > How to Solve a Perpetual Couple’s Fight

No, I’m not going to talk about lying to myself about my sexuality. Or my gender expression. I’ve covered those before. This lie has to do with something much Bigger. Though, at the time, I thought I was the biggest thing around. My family rarely went to church, so it was easy to sidestep the […]

View the post > My Teenage Lie and the Truth I Denied

They say that necessity is the mother of invention. But sometimes? Sometimes necessity is a mother. If you know what I mean. And I think you do. Let’s go back to 2012, shall we? 2012 was the last year of the Mayan calendar. A lot of folks thought the world was going to end in […]

View the post > Necessity Is a Mother

Even though our Guru kitty, Max, is One with all of creation, there’s one thing he’d rather not be One with, thankyouverymuch. That thing? Loud noises. When the evening of the Fourth of July rolls around every year, we need to close all the windows in the house and turn on the noise machines in […]

View the post > My Guru Has a Tail, Episode 23: The Storm

There are a lot more than two traits of spiritually mature people. But. I love lists! I love hearing about qualities of certain types of people and seeing if I fit/don’t fit with them. 12 Traits of a Narcissist. I don’t want any of those! 15 Traits of a Perfect Person Who Also Knows That […]

View the post > 2 Traits of the Spiritually Mature

Lately the world has felt like a snow globe. Except instead of snow gently falling around a bucolic winter scene when the globe is jiggled, we’re looking at institutions crumbling, people dying, and the planet erupting in extreme weather patterns. No gentle falling snow about it. I don’t know about you, but a question I’ve […]

View the post > What’s Your Role in the Love Revolution?

If you’ve ever dipped your toes into the wild and wacky waters of the New Age river, you’ve heard about something called the ascension process. Most simply put, ascension is the process of waking up spiritually. You become aware that you are more than just a human in a body. You become aware that you […]

View the post > What I Got Wrong About the Ascension Process

I don’t know if there’s anything more frustrating than wrestling with technology. Okay, maybe wrestling with technology while blindfolded, with my hands tied behind my back. I guess that would be worse? But dealing with technological glitches with eyes open and hands free is plenty frustrating, thank you very much. Speaking of which. I’m currently […]

View the post > Zen and the Art of Frustration

I’ve heard it mentioned more than once that older souls often suffer from low self-esteem. But I’ve never heard it explained why that is. After pondering this question over time, I’ve come up with a theory. (And by “I,” I mean me and my wife Melissa. She helped me mightily with this post!) In terms […]

View the post > Why Do Old Souls Suffer From Low Self-Esteem?