How Do I Release Religious Sexual Shame?
Dear Meli, I grew up in a strict, religious household. Once I left home, and the church, I thought I’d never go back. And I haven’t. But I do have an ever-increasing interest in spirituality. This time, though, it’s not about rules from without....
2 Interventions That Are Helping My Self-Love Game
Low self-esteem is like dental plaque. We all have it. But no one wants to talk about it. Including me. But, for the purposes of this post, and in the hopes that maybe some of you can relate and it might help a little bit, here goes… For a big chunk of my life, I’ve...
The Worst Thing to Do When You’re Overwhelmed with Work
Capitalism has done a lot of weird things to human beings. One of the weirdest is telling us we should equate our self-worth with productivity. If I’m super productive, I’m super worthy. If I’m not, I’m … not. Yeah. That’s a bigfat lie. And yet… The whole productivity...
How Do I Let Go of Embarrassment?
Dear Meli, A few years ago, I had an incident with a friend. The incident is so embarrassing to me, I can’t even tell you what happened. My friend and I are good now, but I can’t let go of my embarrassment. I’ve tried meditation. I’ve tried...
Why You Need a “No” to Get to Your “Yes”
What’s your relationship to the word “No”? Are you best buds, hanging out on the regular, painting the town with your ability to set firm, healthy boundaries? Or are you and “No” estranged, with little understanding of each other, suspicious and afraid to build a...