How Do I Get Back on Track with Healthy Habits?
Dear Meli, About six years ago, I had a health crisis. In response, I cleaned up my diet. I started exercising. I stopped drinking and smoking weed. Last year, I made it to the five-year remission marker. Ever since then, I’ve been letting things slip. I...
The Worst Thing to Do When You’re Overwhelmed with Work
Capitalism has done a lot of weird things to human beings. One of the weirdest is telling us we should equate our self-worth with productivity. If I’m super productive, I’m super worthy. If I’m not, I’m … not. Yeah. That’s a bigfat lie. And yet… The whole productivity...
What’s Your Deadline Style? And How Can This Awareness Work in Your Favor?
I have a confession: I used to think that my deadline style was the best one. Not only that, I thought it was the only one. Anyone who wasn’t doing it my way was doing it wrong. And then I met Melissa. Melissa and I have two very different deadline styles. In our...
Is It Okay to Have No Ambition?
Dear Meli, My best friend is a writer. She has had a really successful career. She doesn’t do anything to provoke this, but I often find myself comparing myself to her. I haven’t focused on my career at all in this lifetime. I have a steady job, but...
How Do I Let Go of Embarrassment?
Dear Meli, A few years ago, I had an incident with a friend. The incident is so embarrassing to me, I can’t even tell you what happened. My friend and I are good now, but I can’t let go of my embarrassment. I’ve tried meditation. I’ve tried...