Dear Meli, I had a hard childhood. There was a lot of abuse and trauma. Sometimes I hear spiritual folks say that, with spiritual practice, you can heal anything. But my trauma doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. I’ve gotten less anxious over time, but...
A while back, I wrote a post about the elf self. The elf self is a kinder, gentler name for the ego. It’s the part of us that’s cut off from our Higher Self. Or thinks it’s cut off from our Higher Self. Self – S(pirit) = elf. Get it?! Viewing the ego as an elf is...
Dear Meli, This is a little embarrassing. I know I’m too old be be saying this, but… My parents like my sister better and it hurts my feelings. And that’s the problem! I don’t want to be feeling this way. I want to be the bigger person and just...
Gratitude is big these days. Oprah’s crazy about it. Scientific studies are being done about it. Everywhere you turn, someone is extolling the virtues of having a gratitude practice – including me! But there’s an alternative practice to gratitude, one that no one ever...
Dear Meli, I am an active member of a spiritual community. I have been in this community for a long time, and have always considered myself a valuable member. Others in the community treat me with respect and kindness. Lately, however, there has been a change. A new...
I don’t know about you, but I love getting stuff done. It feels sooooo good. So satisfying. And yet. When all the focus is on getting to a goal, whatever that goal may be – whether it’s losing weight, or getting a new job, or becoming spiritually enlightened – all...
