Dear Meli, About six years ago, I had a health crisis. In response, I cleaned up my diet. I started exercising. I stopped drinking and smoking weed. Last year, I made it to the five-year remission marker. Ever since then, I’ve been letting things slip. I...
Capitalism has done a lot of weird things to human beings. One of the weirdest is telling us we should equate our self-worth with productivity. If I’m super productive, I’m super worthy. If I’m not, I’m … not. Yeah. That’s a bigfat lie. And yet… The whole productivity...
I have a confession: I used to think that my deadline style was the best one. Not only that, I thought it was the only one. Anyone who wasn’t doing it my way was doing it wrong. And then I met Melissa. Melissa and I have two very different deadline styles. In our...
Dear Meli, My best friend is a writer. She has had a really successful career. She doesn’t do anything to provoke this, but I often find myself comparing myself to her. I haven’t focused on my career at all in this lifetime. I have a steady job, but...
Dear Meli, A few years ago, I had an incident with a friend. The incident is so embarrassing to me, I can’t even tell you what happened. My friend and I are good now, but I can’t let go of my embarrassment. I’ve tried meditation. I’ve tried...
Dear Meli, What do you think about lies? Do you think we should never lie? I ask because I sometimes find myself telling white lies. Like, I have a coworker who wants to be good friends with me and I don’t feel the same way. When they ask me to get together, I...
