How Can I Navigate Other People’s Demands With My Dying Spouse?
Dear Meli, My wife of many years is in the end stages of cancer. Although it is hard, both of us are accepting the process and it is actually beautiful in some ways. The hard part is with our friends and acquaintances. We are part of a large spiritual community and...
How Do I Get Over Unrequited Love?
Dear Meli, A few years ago, I got out of a toxic marriage. I am so grateful that I had the courage to leave. It took a lot to remove myself from the whole situation, but I did it, and I’ve grown a lot since then. Which brings me to my current dilemma. I’m...
Help! My Spouse and I Have Incompatible Working Styles!
Dear Meli, My wife and I have been married for about 10 years, and we are very compatible. We share the same spiritual beliefs and practices, which helps a lot. But we’re also just really compatible in general. At least, I thought we were! We recently started a...
A Good Mistake to Make When You’re First Setting Boundaries
I’m a big fan of boundaries. They’ve been a lifesaver for me. That’s not to say it’s easy to set them. It’s still hard for me to set boundaries, even after years of planting those suckers all over the place. In spite of the difficulty of setting them, I like to think...
How Can I Get My Family to Respect My Dying Wish?
Dear Meli, I have an unusual dilemma. I have been diagnosed with terminal cancer. And I’m okay with that. I am electing not to do heroic treatments. I am 84 years old and have lived a wonderful life. The treatments would just prolong my life, but also prolong my...