Dear Meli,

I hear a lot of people these days talking about affirmations and creating their life. But isn’t Source in charge of everything? And isn’t Source waaaaay smarter than we are? Why do we need to claim or affirm anything?

Sticking with Surrender

Dear Sticking,

Good for you to stick with surrender! A great idea!

This whole co-creating our lives thing can be a paradox. While it is always better, in my opinion, to surrender to Spirit, it is also very powerful to participate with Spirit in the experience of life. How does that work, you ask? Like this…

When you catch yourself wanting or longing for something, you have one of two options:

1) Surrender to what is, or

2) Imagine how you’d like to feel when it is that way.

Surrender, when authentic and complete, will always bring peace of mind. It may even bring gratitude. But when coupled with the practice of imagining your life the way you’d prefer and feeling how grateful you’ll feel when it is that way? Powerful stuff! And a dance of these two is definitely my preferred way to go.

I confess that I used to be way better at co-creating than I was at surrendering. I might have even argued for not surrendering if it meant acquiescing to something less than awesome! But, let’s be real. Life sometimes brings with it – for our soul’s evolution and, ultimately, our highest good – things that are less-than-our-favorite. And surrendering to what is cannot be underestimated.

And when we align ourselves and our dreams with Spirit, and welcome new levels of good, it is magical stuff! The most powerful way I’ve found to do that is to imagine what I want and feel myself having it.

There are two important things about this:

1) Digging beneath what we think we want to the core of the experience we’re longing for is important. We might think we want a red 2021 Corvette. But as we go deeper, we might find that what we really want is to safely travel, and we want to love the way we get places. Maybe it’s all about freedom. Or safety. But either of these are deeper than the car. What matters is that we can imagine that we have the experience we want and feel grateful for having it.

And,

2) Surrendering during this process is always best. Surrender all the details to Spirit! I trust that Spirit has my highest and best for me. I imagine feeling overjoyed in the area of my life I’m co-creating with Spirit, without detailing why I feel this way. I also know that even greater joy than I can imagine may come. And I know there may be unexpected changes along the way. (Imagining better work, and getting fired before the better work shows up, for instance.)

Co-create? Or surrender? Which one is better? I’d say neither. There will be moments I need to do one more than the other. But, to me, both are imperative, magical gifts.

Play with it. You may be surprised and delighted by the experience.

And thank you for writing!

Blessings and Love to you in all you do.

In Joy,

Melissa

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