There’s a phenomenon I’ve been aware of for years now, but haven’t talked about with anyone other than Melissa. I figured it was time to put it out to the readers of this blog and see if any of y’all have this happen.
Does any of this sound familiar?
You have something to share. Maybe you’re talking to one person, maybe you’re talking to a group. (Not like giving a talk on stage, but talking amongst yourselves.)
As you go to share your Tidbit, something interrupts. It may be one of the folks in your group. Or it may be an outside element, like the server at a restaurant or an ambulance blaring by. Whatever it is, it stops you from sharing your Tidbit.
Right after the interruption happens, you get a little internal nudge. Perhaps I’m not supposed to share this.
At this point, one of two things happen. You take the interruption + internal nudge as a cue, and you don’t share.
Or you try again to share your Tidbit.
Once again, you get interrupted. Once again, you get an internal nudge. Perhaps I’m really not supposed to share this.
At this second point, one of two things happen. You take the second interruption + internal nudge as cue #2, and you don’t share.
Or you try again to share your Tidbit.
This time, you may succeed in sharing. And this time, you often see why your Tidbit was a SSH.
Stop Speaking, Honey.
Just the other day, I had a SSH. I was talking with some friends and thought of something about a family member that I wanted to share with the group. As I opened my mouth to divulge the Tidbit, I was interrupted by one of the people I was talking to. Right away, I got the internal nudge.
That was a SSH. Proceed no further.
So I shut my mouth. As I did so, I immediately realized why my Tidbit was a SSH. I ran the whole thing by Melissa after we left the gathering and she agreed. Definitely a SSH.
One reason I know about the SSH is that, in the past, I’ve barreled past the interruptions and internal nudges and shared my Tidbit anyway. And proceeded to discover that the tidbit was a SSH.
I find that a lot of spiritual education is like that. You have to experiment. You have to try things out for yourself and find out what’s in alignment with your intuition and what isn’t.
I love the SSH because it was born out of this kind of experimentation.
Whenever I’m having a conversation and discover a SSH, I’m free to barrel on forward and share my Tidbit. But I know, from experience, that this isn’t a good idea. I’m the only one stopping me, but it’s a wise and experienced me.
(Doesn’t that kinda describe the spiritual path in general? I think it does!)
The SSH is such a small and subtle thing that, like I say, I’ve never shared it before. (And not because it was a SSH!)
So now I’m curious:
How about you? Have you encountered the SSH? If so, how does it work for you? Share your comments below!
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Thanks Z. I have learned to pause before responding. My intuition (which I recognize as Spirit) is my guide. My friends usually don’t want advice, they want me to listen. 💛
Hi Caroline,
Yes, I feel the same way about intuition. It’s my connection with Spirit. And I also agree with you that people often just want us to listen to them.
Thank you for your comment!
XOZ
Wow! Z, I really like that perspective. I never really looked at it that way. When I encounter those interruptions, I have taken it completely differently. When people interrupt me like that, I get mad, frustrated and sad. Thinking that people just don’t want to hear what I have to say. I never thought for a minute that it might be a SSH. I’m going to definitely change my perspective and meditate on that. That feels much better than how I’ve reacted to it in the past. Thank you for that.
Hi Rhonda,
Thank you! Just in full disclosure, I have also felt frustrated when I get interrupted. Just to be real. But knowing about the SSH has helped a lot.
Thank you for your comment!
XOZ
I’ve definitely had experience with it. Sometimes it’s a SSH because it’s not my story to tell. Sometimes it’s because the person I’m telling can’t really receive it or hold sacred space for me. Sometimes it’s the wrong timing. Sometimes it’s self aggrandizement instead of authenticity. I’m perfectly imperfect at listening to the nudge!!! Lol.
Hi Marina,
Yes, there are so many different reasons that the SSH shows up. Thank you for describing these! And for reminding us that we can be perfectly imperfect at listening to the nudges!
XOZ
I have definitely encountered this. Things it was best not to share and have done both. Barreled through and listened to the nudge to be quiet. Best when I’m talking about someone else. I really didn’t need to share my opinion about that person.
I have found when I barrel through it doesn’t often land well. Wasn’t good time to share or I’m sharing something profound for me perhaps but it just isn’t meant for this group of people at this time. Or ever!
Thanks for naming this. Shhh. Easier to pay attention when I get a nudge!
Hi Jan,
I love it that you understand the SSH! It’s so interesting, isn’t it?!
Thank you for your comment!
XOZ
Of Course there are big SSH moments when I have this belief that the people around me are not ready for my sad or happy confessions/shares but tidbits are a whole other animal for me.
I describe a Tidbit as small bite of something tasty – not only food but knowledge. I notice I am internally ssh’d and then externally SSSSSSHHHHH’d when my EGO (Edging God Out part of me) wants to protect, show how smart I am, gossip, feel important or show how witty I am.
When I am genuinely sharing from EGO (Entertaining God Only part of me) these Tidbits flow freely and create a beneficial presence because simply its God sharing with God and there is no separation.
Hi Sunshine!!
This is SUCH a wonderful observation. I love your distinction between the different EGOs how they are related to the SSH. (I had never heard the Entertaining God Only definition.) That’s such an important difference!
Thank you for your comment. 🙂
XOZ
Oh my gosh!! I’ve had many what I now realize were SSHes, but I didn’t make the connection that the Universe was trying to tell me to SSH! 🤔Thank you for this.
Hi Liz,
Yay! I love that you know what I’m talking about! 🙂
XOZ