Can I Break Up With My Friend?
Dear Meli, I have been part of a meditation group for a long time. One of the members is an old friend. For a while now, my friend has been wanting more and more of my time. I love my friend, but he tends to be really negative and I feel drained after hanging with...
Is Enlightenment an Achievable Goal?
Dear Meli, I have been a spiritual seeker for over 4 decades. When I first discovered spirituality, I was very much striving for enlightenment. I read books about other people who had “woken up” spiritually, and I wanted the same thing. Then, over time, I...
The Upside of Name Calling
When you think about name calling, you probably think about taunts, jeers, and other generally-not-nice verbal utterances. But lately, I’ve been using name calling in another way. An uplifting way. It goes like this. I’m in the checkout line at the grocery store. The...
Does Law of Attraction Mean You Don’t Need to Do Anything But Visualize?
Dear Meli, About a year ago, I was asked to be a part of a new business in my town. At first, things were amazing. My two partners and I were really jazzed about setting up something innovative and new. Their business philosophy seemed to align with everything I stand...
The Crucial Difference Between Guilt and Shame
You probably think you already know the crucial difference between guilt and shame. And you do know one difference. A major difference. Guilt says, “I made a mistake.” Shame says, “I am a mistake.” Shame also says, “I am bad and wrong and don’t deserve to live.” Yeah....