Is Enlightenment an Achievable Goal?
Dear Meli, I have been a spiritual seeker for over 4 decades. When I first discovered spirituality, I was very much striving for enlightenment. I read books about other people who had “woken up” spiritually, and I wanted the same thing. Then, over time, I...
Does Law of Attraction Mean You Don’t Need to Do Anything But Visualize?
Dear Meli, About a year ago, I was asked to be a part of a new business in my town. At first, things were amazing. My two partners and I were really jazzed about setting up something innovative and new. Their business philosophy seemed to align with everything I stand...
How to Solve a Perpetual Couple’s Fight
Back when I was in psychology grad school, we were taught that when a couple is having the same fight again and again – over how to load the dishwasher properly, for example – the fight was merely a decoy. A cover for something deeper. As a therapist, it was our job...
My Teenage Lie and the Truth I Denied
No, I’m not going to talk about lying to myself about my sexuality. Or my gender expression. I’ve covered those before. This lie has to do with something much Bigger. Though, at the time, I thought I was the biggest thing around. My family rarely went to church, so it...
How Do I Move On From Guru Abuse?
Dear Meli, I was in a spiritual community for about 10 years. For a lot of this time, I lived on site with our spiritual leader. I was married when I was in the community, and my husband and I lived there together. And now the tricky part. Our spiritual leader was a...