Capitalism has done a lot of weird things to human beings. One of the weirdest is telling us we should equate our self-worth with productivity. If I’m super productive, I’m super worthy. If I’m not, I’m … not. Yeah. That’s a bigfat lie. And yet… The whole productivity...
Dear Meli, A few years ago, I had an incident with a friend. The incident is so embarrassing to me, I can’t even tell you what happened. My friend and I are good now, but I can’t let go of my embarrassment. I’ve tried meditation. I’ve tried...
What’s your relationship to the word “No”? Are you best buds, hanging out on the regular, painting the town with your ability to set firm, healthy boundaries? Or are you and “No” estranged, with little understanding of each other, suspicious and afraid to build a...
Dear Meli, This is maybe going to sound weird, but is it unspiritual to want to look good? I used to be really conflicted about my gender expression. But lately, I’ve been dressing exactly how I want to, even though it doesn’t fit with society’s...
Living your life in a public forum comes with a bunch of cool things. Getting to share your work with a wider audience. Receiving appreciation from peeps who are touched by what you do. Feeling encouraged to keep going because you can see you’re making a difference....
Let’s cut to the chase: I’m talking about assumptions. Assumptions suck. That’s why sayings like “Don’t make assumptions” make their way into books about powerful agreements that have the capacity to change your life. And we have groovy little aphorisms like “When I...