How Can I Stop Judging My Family for Their Politics?
Dear Meli, It’s been an intense couple of months, what with the election and Covid. But in my family, the intensity has been going on for four years. My family of origin and I have very different political views. We tried to have civil discussions, but we found...
Why the Mind Is Full of #$%@
Why do we insist on believing our minds? They steer us wrong again and again. And yet we continue to believe them. They predict the future. We believe them. They make up stories about what other people think of us. We believe them. They enumerate our faults and tell...
How Do I Handle My Stress About Politics?
Dear Meli, I’ve been very upset about politics. There’s so much hatred and divisiveness and it’s really stressing me out. I’m trying not to watch the news too much, but then I also get more worried when I’m not paying attention to...
The Magic List That Keeps My Vibe High
If you’re one of those folks that sees no relationship between ‘lists’ and ‘high vibes,’ I’m right there with you. Years ago, I stopped making lists because I found that they turned me into someone who focused primarily on The List and lost perspective about what The...
Is It Okay to Cut Family Members Out of Your Life?
Dear Meli, I have a cousin who is very difficult for me. He is younger than me, and is the baby of his family. I’m the oldest in mine, and have looked out for him a lot of my life, especially since both of his parents died about 10 years ago. However, I’m...