It’s true that what others think of me is ultimately none of my business. But it’s also true that it is my business. Here’s an example. I recently went to the great city of San Francisco. While I was there, I noticed I was getting a lot of stares. This isn’t uncommon...
Dear Meli, I am embarrassed to ask you this question, but it’s been weighing heavily on me lately. I have two adult children, a son and a daughter. My son and I get along wonderfully. My daughter and I get along well too, at least on the surface, but it’s...
A few months ago, we got home from our third tour. The more we tour, the better we get at it. For instance, we knew that we were going to need a week of down time after we got home in order to refresh and regroup. Oh, how wrong we were! It turned out we needed about...
Dear Meli, I have a friend I’ve known since college. I love her dearly, but lately it’s getting harder and harder to hang out with her. She’s always complaining. She complains about her job. She complains about her wife. She complains about her...
Most Gurus have a past, and ours is no exception. Our Guru kitty Max spent the first two years of his life on the streets. Literally. When he first showed up at the home of a friend of ours, he was dirty and scrawny. Our friend tried to integrate him into her...
Dear Meli, My husband and I have been together almost 20 years. Great, right? Yeah, it’s pretty good overall. There’s just one little problem. He drives me crazy. He’s not abusive or anything, it’s not that. He just gets on my nerves. The way...
