Dear Meli, This is maybe going to sound weird, but is it unspiritual to want to look good? I used to be really conflicted about my gender expression. But lately, I’ve been dressing exactly how I want to, even though it doesn’t fit with society’s...
Dear Meli, I am the proud mom of three adult children. All three of my kids have children of their own, and I am so grateful to be a grandmother. Two of my kids are great parents. The other one? Not so much. At least, in my view. She seems incapable of setting...
Dear Meli, I’m sorry to get so heavy, but I have a really hard one. My mother was murdered. It happened about three years ago. She was in her sixties and was killed by her boyfriend. No one saw it coming. He seemed like a really great guy, and she didn’t...
It’s true that what others think of me is ultimately none of my business. But it’s also true that it is my business. Here’s an example. I recently went to the great city of San Francisco. While I was there, I noticed I was getting a lot of stares. This isn’t uncommon...
Dear Meli, I am embarrassed to ask you this question, but it’s been weighing heavily on me lately. I have two adult children, a son and a daughter. My son and I get along wonderfully. My daughter and I get along well too, at least on the surface, but it’s...
A few months ago, we got home from our third tour. The more we tour, the better we get at it. For instance, we knew that we were going to need a week of down time after we got home in order to refresh and regroup. Oh, how wrong we were! It turned out we needed about...
