We’ve all been there.
Something goes wrong: We get hurt. Someone offends us. Our car runs out of gas.
So how do we get out of trouble? Where do we turn for help?
Do we look for assistance from things we can see – people, places and things? Or is it better to ask for help from things we can’t see – God, the Universe, a spirit guide wearing a jewel-adorned helmet who likes to be called “Boppy”?
I recently had an experience that reminded me of the power of asking for assistance – and the proper balance between seen and unseen forces.
It all started the other morning when my wife Melissa and I were on a walk. I felt a sharp pain on the underside of my arm and looked down to see a bee, flying out of my T-shirt.
I’ll admit, I wasn’t super happy to see the bee. In fact, I was super pissed.
The last time I got stung by a bee, it was on my foot. Soon after I’d been stung, my foot swelled up like a tomato. It itched. It hurt. It was Not Fun At All.
So when the bee first stung my arm, I had a moment of freak out.
What if my arm swells up? What if it turns into a tomato, like my foot did?! Who wants to see a woman with tomato arms? I’m going to look like a freak of nature, with a big tomato arm and fat little tomato fingers!!!
This went on for a few seconds, until another voice joined the conversation.
The more I dialogue with the Divine, the more I can hear it talk to me. As I build this channel of communication, the Divine’s voice gets louder and louder – even in trying circumstances.
The Bee Incident was no exception.
In answer to the tomato-arm freakout, I heard a little voice that said:
Why don’t you ask the angels to help heal your arm?
That’s right, I used the “A” word.
Over the course of my spiritual journey, I’ve related to Source in different ways, using different words: the Universe, Spirit, the Divine.
Sometimes, when I ask for Help, I ask in a general way. But for whatever reason, this day I was prompted to ask the angels.
I used to think that angels were totally old-school. Way Biblical. Then my friend Jill Shinn did some work with Doreen Virtue, and I became hip to the effectiveness of these celestial helpers. (Doreen has since shunned her previous work, but that’s a tale for another day.)
It had been a while since I’d thought to ask an angel for help, but the tiny winged bee motivated me to call upon a bigger winged one for assistance.
After asking the angels for Help, the first thing I was prompted to do was to go back to our house.
Actually, it was Melissa who prompted me to go back to our house. Once we were there, we researched remedies for a bee sting and found out that an ice pack was the antidote of choice.
So I slapped a pack of frozen peas on my arm.
That was it. That was the extent of my activity in relation to the bee: angels and frozen peas.
The amazing thing was the aftermath of this method of asking for assistance.
In the hours after my bee sting, I developed a faint pink circle on my arm where the bee had stung me. Nothing more.
No swelling. No tomato arms. A little pain, but barely.
I could hardly believe it.
The difference between this bee sting and the tomato-foot sting was like the difference between night and day.
Or, should I say, it was like the difference between asking for Help from the unseen realm and not asking for Help from the unseen realm.
What I particularly liked about my bee incident was that once I asked for assistance from the angels, I was immediately guided to assistance from tangible sources – namely, Melissa and a bag of frozen peas.
Just because we’re busting out the serious wu-wu chops and relying on things we can’t see doesn’t mean that we can’t be open to help from seen sources as well.
Indeed, the unseen realm often quickly and immediately sends us help from tangible sources.
What was interesting about my recent bee sting is that the combination of angelic and human assistance created powerful results.
When the bee stung my foot, I iced it afterwards. But I didn’t ask for Help before I did so.
That’s the limitation of relying only on tangible sources of aid. We’ll get help, sure. But it’s not as powerful.
Not only that, if you push ahead in the material world without first aligning yourself with the unseen realm, you can spend a whole lot of time spinning your wheels and chasing after dead-ends. Or both.
And there’s nothing less fun than spinning your wheels on a dead-end road.
On the other hand, if we only rely on the unseen realm and don’t avail ourselves of tangible help when it comes along, we’re like the guy in the story who calls out to God to save him from the flood and then ignores the boats and helicopters who come to rescue him because he’s waiting for God to save him.
So what’s better – help from seen or unseen sources?
Both.
But if you start with the unseen realm and then open to both seen and unseen sources of assistance, you maximize your potential for success. And happiness. And awesomeness.
Also, you lessen the chances that your arms will look like tomatoes.
Which is always a good thing.
How – and who – do you ask for Help? Share your comments below!
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If my car breaks down, I call AAA. If I need a parking spot “saved” for me, I call on my ancestors (angels) who’ve passed… my mom, dad, cousin Denny, friend Donna, etc. I also ask them for protection every time I get on my old Schwinn and ride out into the “word beyond my control.” For assistance with prayer requests, I turn to the source (collective, Spirit, God, whatever….) There’s plenty of assistance for us mere mortals, and one day I look forward to being on the other side, helping out. Thanks for the thoughtful post, Z.
Hi Jo,
Sounds like you have lots of awesome support! I appreciate the reminder that we will all have the opportunity to return the favor some days. It makes receiving help now all the sweeter. 🙂
XOZ
I call it listening to my intuition (I don’t know where that springs from).
It took me a long time — way too long — to trust it; but every time, without fail, if I ignore my intuition, things go horribly wrong.
When i trust it, and recognize the red flags or the green light, my life goes along swimmingly.
I’m glad I finally learned to listen to that inner voice!
Hi Tanya,
In terms of spiritual parlance, intuition is the way that humans connect with the Divine. Or, for those less wuwu, intuition is simply an amazing, awesome tool that, like you say, can steer you in the right direction every time. Glad you have a great connection with yours.
On another note, I had a dream with you in it last night. You told me that you were your mom’s favorite kid!! Guess that’s because you have such great intuition. 😉
XOZ
I’m scarcely in the top 5 of her favorite kids LOL
Hey, in my dream mind, you’re the BEST!! 🙂
love the combination of seen and unseen and what happens if I ask for help from the unseen realm, FIRST–I think that is spiritual etiquette 102. 101 is spiritual etiquette requires that I ASK for help. It doesn’t just come, because that’s rude. I have to ask if I need it.
Spiritual étiquette 102 might be that I ask the unseen before the seen.
Good stuff, your Z-ness
Sara
Hi Sara,
I love that you have phrased this in terms of spiritual etiquette. What a concept! Oh, the things we can accomplish if we follow 101 and 102. I wonder what 103 might be. Guess I better ask the Divine. . .
XOZ
Great blog Z!! I actually thought of your bee sting today, trying to remember what you did as I fought off the yellow jacket that was dive-bombing my rotisserie chicken because I was sure I was going to get stung. Luckily, after asking the Unseen for help and some ninja moves I was able to get the chicken in the car without the bee. Phew!
Story aside…I’m more apt to ask the Unseen for help and am just now remembering to ask my fellow humans for help. Imagine that! Getting the Divine and the Tangible on the same track…wow! Let the helping begin! Safe journey for you both…and you might want to bring along some more of those peas! 😉
Hi Michelle,
Glad that you relying on the Unseen. Plus the ninja moves. You can NEVER go wrong with that combination!!
Thanks for pointing out that asking humans for help is an important part of the Asking For Help paradigm. For some of us, it’s easier to ask the Divine than humans. Both are key, and I’m glad that you are covering all the bases. Let the helping begin, indeed!! 🙂
XOZ
Hi Z, I love this post (and not just because you mentioned my name!) I love it because you built a beautiful bridge between the powerful, but limited, world of the ego, and the powerful, but sometimes limited by human perception, world of spirit.
You showed how we’re supposed to, I believe, interact with our higher guidance. We live in the 3-D, which means we have to do things, say things, etc, sometimes, to get results. But when we let the spiritual world help to direct those actions, it’s miraculous, because they can see things we can’t see, and they perceive only win-win scenarios, so we can’t go wrong by asking for their guidance. Awesome, Z. Great post.
Hi Jill,
Glad you liked it!
I like that you point out that the spiritual world can see and perceive things that we can’t. In my experience, accepting this truth and relying on the energy/entities of this realm for help, has made my life SO much more awesome. I also like your point that the spiritual perception is only win/win scenarios. This is such an empowering way to to see life – not just for ourselves, but for everyone we interact with.
Thanks for being an inspiration! 🙂
XOZ