Guilt is a signal that I did something that goes against my internal standards. Guilt calls for self-examination. Is my guilt warranted? Do I need to make an amends? Or does my guilt stem from unrealistic standards of perfectionism or codependency? There is much to be...
Every day, I receive messages from the outside world. Some messages come to me without my conscious choice. Others I get to choose. When I decide to watch a film, television show, or video online, I’m the boss of what I watch! I pick things that enlighten me. I pick...
My mind is an active little sucker. It loves to keep busy comparing and contrasting every element in my life. When my mind turns its attention on other people, I’m in for a ride! Sometimes my mind decides that I’m waaaaaay better than others. Sometimes my mind decides...
Being competitive is a natural human tendency. So the fact that it shows up everywhere, even in spiritual settings, is not surprising. When I feel someone trying to engage me in the Spiritual Olympics, I don’t have to participate. I don’t want that medal! And if it’s...
Setting a boundary for the first time can be scary and unsettling. Will they get mad at me? Am I a bad person for having this boundary? The more I set boundaries, the better I get at trusting myself in setting them. I know when I need space, and I get better and...
