Who’s in Charge of Your Life? Your Self or Your Elf?
A while back, I wrote a post about the elf self. The elf self is a kinder, gentler name for the ego. It’s the part of us that’s cut off from our Higher Self. Or thinks it’s cut off from our Higher Self. Self – S(pirit) = elf. Get it?! Viewing the ego as an elf is...
The Alternative to Gratitude
Gratitude is big these days. Oprah’s crazy about it. Scientific studies are being done about it. Everywhere you turn, someone is extolling the virtues of having a gratitude practice – including me! But there’s an alternative practice to gratitude, one that no one ever...
How to Be Happy When You Haven’t Accomplished Your Goals Yet
I don’t know about you, but I love getting stuff done. It feels sooooo good. So satisfying. And yet. When all the focus is on getting to a goal, whatever that goal may be – whether it’s losing weight, or getting a new job, or becoming spiritually enlightened – all...
What to Do About the Drunk Guy in Your Head
We all have him. You may not always hear him, but he’s there. Spouting loud, obnoxious stuff. Blatant lies. Cruel insults. Most people call it the ego, but lately I’ve come to see this aspect of myself as a loud, sloppy drunk dude. Yes, it’s a dude. There are...
In Defense of Kumbaya
It’s not like we’re going to just hold hands and start singing Kumbaya. How many times have you heard a phrase like this, particularly when someone is advocating for a non-superficial approach to problem solving? And yes, I understand this reaction. We...