“Be nice.” “Be polite.” “Put others needs above your own.” As someone who was socialized as female in this society, messages like these were baked into my consciousness from the time I was small. This isn’t to say that all female people have these messages baked into...
Dear Meli, One of the hardest things for me on the spiritual path is comparing myself to others. I seem to do it all the time: How I compare to others spiritually, how I compare to others in my physical fitness, how I compare to others in how much money I have....
There’s a really easy way to tell if you’re a vibrational match with someone. You each sing the tone of your fundamental soul essence. If the tones harmonize, you’re a match! If the tones clash, you’re not a match and you need to run away from that person as fast as...
Dear Meli, I’m having some conflict with my best friend. We recently went on a vacation together. We had an itinerary planned, but when it came time to do everything, I just couldn’t do it. My friend is a lot more extroverted than I am, and she...
I once had a minister tell me that every time they did a talk about the Dreaded Practice, fewer people would come to church that Sunday. What on earth could be that Dreaded? Meditation? Journaling? Taking a spiritual inventory? No, my friends. It’s something much,...
I’m a lifelong learner, so no matter how completely and horribly crappy something turns out, I’m always looking for the lesson to be learned from it. Take friendships, for example. I’ve got all kinds of friends in my life – those I’ve known for decades and those I’ve...
