If you’re feeling down and need a pick-me-up, there are all kinds of things you can do.
You can meditate. You can go for a walk. You can pray.
All those things are great, don’t get me wrong. But today I want to introduce you to something you’ve probably never read about in any spiritual text. Ever.
It’s the power of a look to heal you. And not just any look.
Yes, I know it’s a “just” stuffed animal rendition of Dumbo. Yes, I know that stuffed animals are not given their due for their profound spiritual healing abilities, but hear me out!
A while back, Melissa and I were performing one of our rap songs at a ministerial conference. This was my first time performing for this particular group of people, and I was a little nervous. It was a group of professional spiritual types.
What if they didn’t like what we did? What if we bombed? What if, more specifically, I bombed?
The performance came and went. It went great. Lots of people seemed to like it. We were aware of bringing joy to the audience, which is our main goal in everything we do.
So what was the problem?
The problem was my mind.
The day after the performance, my mind was full of noise. Noise about what I could have done better. Noise about all the reasons people might not have liked what we did. Noise about anything my mind could come up with that was negative or contracted or bad.
And that’s when Melissa came up with an intervention.
She pulled out the stuffed Dumbo, who had just been given to her by the wonderful Molly Cameron, and she said, “Really?”
As in, are those things really true?
If you’ve ever heard of The Work by Byron Katie, it was like a Disney version of that. But with a stuffed elephant as the deliverer of the intervention.
You think you sucked? You think everything is awful? Really? Is that really true?
I have to say, it was pretty hard to maintain the barrage of negative thinking when faced with such an expression. Somehow, stuffed Dumbo managed to remind the little kid inside me that everything was going to be okay.
Not only that, but when you’re talking to a stuffed animal, it’s hard to take anything that seriously. All the things that had seemed so important and so wrong just moments before felt less wrong and less important.
It didn’t totally knock me out of my funk, but it was the beginning of the turn-around.
In my case, a stuffed animal did the trick. But maybe you have a real animal’s face you can look at. Or the face of a child. Or a friend. Maybe you can see the face in real life, or maybe you can picture it in your mind.
Then, ask yourself: What mischief is going on in my head right now? What am I making bad and wrong and awful?
And to all those things, I have just one question:
What is your experience with “Really?” therapy? Share your comments below!