We all know about the “other shoe” and how we’re supposed to wait for it to drop.
But what’s that about? Why are we waiting? And what does the Other Shoe Syndrome say about our lives? Is there another way to see things?
First, some history.
As it turns out, the expression “waiting for the other shoe to drop” stems from New York City, aka the Big Apple. (Or, as I like to call it, the Huge Fruit.)
Back in the late 19th and early 20th Century, the Huge Fruit was bustling with activity. The manufacturing boom was in full force and tons of people had moved to the Fruit to get jobs in factories.
To make room for all these folks, apartments were built to accommodate them. Much like a factory assembly line, the apartments were mechanical in design – each one exactly the same.
This meant that if you lived on a lower floor, someone above you had their bedroom in exactly the same place. It was a common occurrence to hear your neighbor coming home from work and removing their shoes. First one, and then . . .
wait for it. . .
Thus the Other Shoe Syndrome was born.
There are two basic assumptions in this expression. The first is that the drop of the second shoe is inevitable.
The other assumption is that the drop of the second shoe is usually something bad.
The other day, I was meditating. At the end of my meditation, all blissed out from alignment with the Divine, I thought about the fact that my life keeps getting better and better.
The minute I thought this, a little fear crept into my awareness.
You guessed it.
Fear of the “other shoe” had come to call.
I was afraid that acknowledging how great things were was going to somehow ruin everything.
Luckily I was in Bliss Land, which gave me access to another perspective. Immediately after the “other shoe” made its appearance, another thought rose to the surface.
Things keep getting better and better because you’re getting better and better at aligning with your true nature, which is the Divine.
The Divine is awesome. It doesn’t get any better than that. So don’t fear, my friend. You’re safe. The only “other shoe” that’s going to drop is the Tap Dance of the Divine, celebrating life in all its glory.
Take that, Other Shoe Syndrome!
Yes, there are certain things that do follow a predictable order. The sun rises. And then it sets. We wake up. And then we go to sleep. Summer comes. And Fall comes after it.
But this notion that something good is bound to be followed by something bad is made up. Made up by minds that like to create mischief. Minds that have a hard time letting in how great things can be.
I’m not saying “bad” things never happen. We all have challenges. But to say that these challenges must follow anything good is simply not true.
So how do we handle our mischief-making minds? How do we learn to receive good things, especially if we’re not used to it?
To counteract the Other Shoe Syndrome, I recommend one of my favorite practices:
When other-shoe-itis makes its appearance, you don’t need to minimize how great things are in an effort to hold off anything bad. Instead, you can bask in all the good things in your life. Celebrate the wonderful things that surround you.
The gratitude vibe makes you available to more of the same – which is to say, the Tap Dance of the Divine!
Actually, anything that puts you in greater alignment with the Divine is a great anecdote to the Other Shoe Syndrome.
Like taking a walk. Or going to a movie. Or hanging out with your best friend. Or tap dancing! Whatever makes you feel part of the Life Force, relaxing into the positive flow of existence.
So the next time the Other Shoe Syndrome comes to call, change your focus. Find something to be grateful for.
Then put on your tap shoes and celebrate!
How do you counteract the Other Shoe Syndrome? Share your comments below!