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How to Build a Relationship with Your Higher Power


Is it really possible to have a relationship with a Higher Power?

I mean, that’s a pretty imposing thing to have a relationship with.

Like Cher.

Except this Cher also created the sky and the seas and everything in creation.

Kind of intimidating.

2-cher-and-dude-done-with-tWhen I was a kid, the only version of a Higher Power I knew of was Old School Bible God.

Dude had problems.

He would get all pissed off and curse and smite people, but then he was sometimes nice and you were supposed to turn to him when you had problems.



Needless to say, Old School Bible God never worked for me. That’s why, when I was a kid, I didn’t believe in God at all.

Then, in my early 20s, I had a spiritual experience.

I never would have gotten on board the Higher Power bandwagon if I hadn’t experienced it myself.

But I did.

That experience led me to realize that there’s an energy in all things. It’s alive and luminous.


Not only that, it’s also loving.


And it’s in everyone.


When I realized this, having a relationship with a Higher Power suddenly became a lot more interesting. And a lot more desirable.

I called it the Universe then. I realized I could talk to it. And it would respond to me.


These days, I call it the Divine.

I still talk to it, and it still responds. I ask it for help, and I get it. (Though sometimes not in the form I expect.)

The coolest thing about having a relationship with a Higher Power is that it’s both inside and all around me.

So when I’m interacting with it, I’m interacting with the essence of the Divine inside and outside myself.


When I first got involved in the New Thought movement, I was told we didn’t refer to our Higher Power as “You.” Saying “You” implies separation. It implies Old School Bible God.

But when you know that a Higher Power is both inside and outside of you, then calling it You and having a relationship with it becomes this totally cool, paradoxical thing. You can’t define it with your logical mind, but it works.

At least, that’s my experience.

So, how do you build a relationship with a Higher Power?

It’s like any other relationship. You start talking.

9dude-text-done-againAnd listening.

10dude-textAnd being quiet together.

11dudeEveryone has a unique relationship with their Higher Power. There’s no one right way to do it

The most important thing is to simply start. Say Hello.

And then see what happens.


Next time on Life in Z-D: I’ll talk about how having a relationship with a Higher Power can improve your connection with others!

How do you build a relationship with a Higher Power? Share your comments below!

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4 Responses to How to Build a Relationship with Your Higher Power

  1. Karen Money Williams December 8, 2015 at 11:17 am #

    Those colorful cartoons are beyond adorable, including the “like/smite” one. So droll and relatable.

    • Z Egloff December 9, 2015 at 11:48 am #

      Thank you, Karen! :)

  2. Francesca December 10, 2015 at 10:34 am #

    Hi Z! I read your piece on higher power. This is a bone of contention in my life. I have never had that aha moment when you realize there is something greater than yourself. I do not believe in a higher power per se. In my Buddhist practice there is not a higher power since it would signify ego. I struggle with words such as, spirit, practitioner, God. I do not use the word God since I do not believe it. Source is another word expressing a higher power. I was told once at an AA meeting I had to have a higher power or the program would not work for me. So injury wanted to share my experience and feelings and soooooooo appreciate your food for thought. Love you and Meli lots.

    • Z Egloff December 10, 2015 at 11:55 am #

      Hi Francesca,

      I appreciate your comment and your perspective. For the record, I don’t like the word God either – to me, it brings to mind an old, white, mentally ill dude in the sky. And I also get that, for you, the whole Higher Power thing doesn’t work for you. Which is awesome, as you have found a path and a way that fits for you. I’m definitely not about proselytizing – if the Higher Power gig works for you, awesome. If not, then that’s awesome too. So thanks for sharing your perspective! We love you lots too!!! :)


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