Dear Meli, My wife and I were married for forty long years. It was a good marriage for the first couple of decades, but the second half of our marriage was challenging. My wife had numerous challenges with her mental health, one of which was frequent outbursts of...
Some of you just read the title of this post and are now saying, “But Z, I thought your pronoun was ‘they’!” You are correct. My pronouns are they/them/theirs. I define as gender-rich, and “they” is the pronoun that fits me best. But other...
Dear Meli, My husband died a few years ago, and ever since then I haven’t felt as connected to my life here on earth. It’s not that I’m depressed necessarily, but I also don’t know why I’m still here. I’ve lived a good life, and I...
Dear Meli, My mother died of Covid a few months ago. She was in her early nineties, and she had already started to decline. Covid was the final straw, but she was ready to go. And yet, even though I know this, I have been having a hell of a time. Her death has knocked...
Dear Meli, It’s been an intense couple of months, what with the election and Covid. But in my family, the intensity has been going on for four years. My family of origin and I have very different political views. We tried to have civil discussions, but we found...
Dear Meli, I’ve been very upset about politics. There’s so much hatred and divisiveness and it’s really stressing me out. I’m trying not to watch the news too much, but then I also get more worried when I’m not paying attention to...
