When you see a couple that’s just fallen in love, do you envy them?
Or do you think:
Yeah, just wait. Pretty soon you’ll be fighting over money and who takes out the trash. Enjoy it while it lasts, suckers!
Whatever your reaction to the freshly-in-love, they have something to teach us.
No, it’s not that giggling uncontrollably whenever your paramour says anything is a relationship strength.
Although giggling uncontrollably has its merits.
There’s another trait the freshly-in-love tend to display in copious amounts, a trait seasoned relationship folks could benefit greatly from.
Picture this:
You’re hanging out with a Fresh Couple. They’ve been together two weeks. Have you noticed how they talk to each other?
Those of us in longer relationships tend to roll our eyes at this sort of hyper-saccharine-politeness. But why is that?
Is it, perhaps, because we haven’t participated in such behavior since we were Freshies ourselves?
Lately, I’ve been noticing how polite I tend to be with people I don’t know.
I’ve also noticed that, from time to time, I tend to be a tad bit less polite with my wife.
But how wacky is that?
My wife is the person I love the most on the whole planet.
And yes, this means that she has the capacity to drive me crazy (not in a good way) more than anyone else on the whole planet.
But when I remember my manners, and treat her with the same level of politeness that I would a stranger, it makes everything So. Much. Better.
And, funny thing, my amped-up level of kindness has sparked a kindness revival in her as well.
What does this look like?
Saying “please” and “thank you” to each other all the time, even for little things that we do on a regular basis.
It feels great!
So now, when we see a couple of Freshies, we soak in their care and concern for each other. We see it as something to emulate, not to scoff at.
Yes, their hyper-saccharine-politeness might make us squirm sometimes, but it’s a trait worth noticing.
And practicing as much as we can.
So next time you see me giggling uncontrollably, you’ll know why…
What do you appreciate about the Freshly-in-Love? Share your comments below!
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i LOVE this…I always call my hubby my boyfriend…I look in the mirror and freshen up when he is due home..or even shower and change like I would if my BOYFRIEND was coming over…tidy up the clutter..light a candle..put on some music we both like..etc…I think a lot of people “stray” from their marriage because they want to be a lover and not just old faithful…If he calls me 10 X in one day I’m flattered not irritated …he treats me like his girl friend.. not just “The Wife” or God forbid “The old lady.”
Hi Jerrine, I love this! That’s so beautiful. It’s wonderful that you still have that freshie love. Wonderful!! XOZ
Good reminder! Also, I’m appreciating the term “Freshie” as well as the current hair-do drawings of you two. Very fun. As always, thanks for sharing valuable tips in such an entertaining way. Mwah!
Hi Marcy, Yay! I’m glad you liked it. And thank you for noticing the new ‘dos! Yessss. 🙂 XOZ
I guess I don’t get out enough because I can’t remember when I last saw a freshie couple. I witnessed something powerful on the bus yesterday though. I woman who is often highly agitated and muttering hateful things, was invited to sit next to the man in the seat in front of me. It was obvious that they knew each other and he kindly helped her settle her backpack and bag of cans/bottles. He then put his arm around her and listened to her still agitated talking, every so often speaking quietly in her ear. She grew calmer and quieter, and by the time they got to their stop, she thanked the bus driver and wished me a great day. It was magical!
Hi Sue,
Wow! This is SO awesome. Thank you for this reminder of the power of kindness and calm. Beautiful!!!
XOZ